Monday, September 26, 2011
Update: Sukhraj Beasla's story

We've received an overwhelming response to the story about Sukhraj Beasla, an iReporter whose parents still boast that she’s got a great job at a bank even though she was laid off more than two years ago.

 

The story, which was featured on the CNN.com homepage and viewed half-a-million times, detailed her personal sacrifices and never-ending hunt for full-time employment, all while working numerous part-time jobs.

 

On Saturday, Beasla's inbox was bursting with positive support and even some job offers. She was thrilled about the offers but said that a lot involved sales schemes.

 

"One guy even called me an idiot for turning down his offer because he and his wife are making half a million dollars with some coffee distribution company and they are their own bosses, etc.,” she wrote Monday morning.

 

Beasla "loved" of all the comments on the story and said she was appreciative of all the positive support. Some of the remarks were featured in the Overheard on CNN.com blog post.

 

Some of the CNN.com commenters, like wellwishes57, told Beasla that she should be proud of how she’s handled her predicament. "My hats off to Ms. Beasla, at least she is working odd jobs to make ends meet. Her parents should be proud of her."

 

canuck168 identified with Beasla and came from a similar background. "I am moved by your life story because I also come from a family tradition like yours. Keep your spirit up. Yes there are others in situation worse than yours. Good luck."

 

While Saturday brought a positive response, Beasla said Sunday brought backlash from the Indian community. Other commenters suggested she move home with her parents until she can get on her feet.

 

As to her parents' response, she is not sure what they think yet.

 

"I haven't heard from my family and I have no idea if they've seen [the story]," she said. "I don't really want to ask because I have no idea how they'll respond. I'm sure it won't be good."

 

But, there is some good news to report. On Monday afternoon, a director of a human resource company in California contacted CNN asking for Beasla's resume. He's looking to hire a sales person, possibly Beasla, after reading her story.

 

What did you think about Beasla’s story? Do you have any advice or job leads for her? Feel free to leave a comment and we will pass it along to her. And, if you’ve been impacted by the economy, we welcome you to share your story on video.

53 Comments
September 26, 2011

I'M NOT NEW HERE AND HERE TO KILL CNN NEWS

September 26, 2011
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I am very sorry for this poor young woman who is a victim of the banks for which she worked. It is weird that CNN always chooses poor duped people who are now unemployed after working for the very institutions who ruined them and so many others. Exactly how did she make $70,000 per year if she was not selling something such as mortgages? Maybe mortgages to minority clients who felt comfortable with her.

September 26, 2011
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They are hiring in India.

September 26, 2011
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Why go on with the lie?  These people you lie to may be able to help in finding you a job!?

 

 

 

September 26, 2011

Pull queroteucu!

September 26, 2011
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I didn't read the story, but I'm glad it's working out for her... However, her story is not a particular one; on the contrary, it's a very common one; there are too many people who are regarded by their friends and relatives with high pride that the first ones would feel ashamed of themselves if they didn't meet the expectations of their loved ones; so in order to not dissapoint them, they hide the truth; moreover, many times they don't even get in touch with friends and family to avoid the truth being discovered; of course, most of them survive doing other jobs. ;)

 

September 26, 2011
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Sounded like she was trying hard to pull her weight and find a job.  Kudos to her!  Would personally recommend that she move in with roommates to save money.  As for lying to her family... yeah, hard to understand that.  Seems unnecessary and guaranteed to backfire.

September 26, 2011
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I feel her pain , as well as  of millions of other young people in her situation. I have been there -an overeducated white male over 50 . Our economy have been offshored . Unless our economy that our stupid and corrupt politicians lost will return no amount of paper stimulus is going to do it. Obama and the rest are either stupid and believe their own b.s. or they lie. It is the second , I think.

September 26, 2011
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why live a lie....just goes to the character of the person, who lies.  i like what herman Cain said, on all points. He turned a Godfather's pizza that ws about to go into bankrupcy and turned it around.  And he is not a career politician either, that is what is ruining America, all these career politicians.  Limit any term to two period for any officials. 

September 26, 2011
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I Love her spirit and the drive not to quit or give up.  Many other people could learn from her.

September 26, 2011
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How is lying to your family admirable? What a joke of an article. 

September 26, 2011
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How is that HOPEY CHANGY thing working out?

September 26, 2011
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By the way -- if you haven't read the original story yet, here's the link -- be sure and check it out: http://www.cnn.com/2011/IREPORT/09/24/new.face.of.poverty.unemployed/index.html

September 26, 2011
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I lied to my 85 yr.old mother when I was unemployed. Once I got a at Lowe's I told her. My sister ws the support and we didn't want to worry her. I now have just a part time job in my profession but still don't make ends meet. Am I going to tell her, NO. I am fortanate that IF I HAD to go to her for money I could but as much as it is a lot of humble pie to eat there are jobs out there.  I still look constantly. The worse is when others think you are doing fine and want to do something that costs money and you have to lie to bow out. I often eat at home before going out with friends and then it's water. I know I will get through this by the grace of God, but the tears of why am I hear still happen while trying to figure which bill to pay. Yet, I am much better off than some, I don't have cancer, didn't get hit with a tsunami or tornado. One day at a time!

 

September 26, 2011
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"Forced to live a lie"... nobody forced her to lie to her family. And, in choosing to lie and continuing to lie, she has made a choice presumedly based on her value system. I suppose that after this story was published, she will no longer have to "lie" to her family.

September 26, 2011
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ugh. celebrating a girl that doesn't have the integrity to be honest to her parents, yet jumps at the chance to be famous for it.

 

Excellent example of what's wrong in this world

September 26, 2011
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Sorry but everyone and their mom is in her situation too..Why she has to lie about it is one thing but many of us are clearly unemployed too.

September 26, 2011
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Theres so much more happening in this world that people are not mentioning.

This is just one women who obviously has a laptop and doesnt look like shes starving, she looks well fed to me. I feel sorry for all the people who have some type of criminal record for non violent crimes that occurred years ago who have changed their lives around who are being discriminated when employers check their backround, and who are more qualified for a certain position than someone without a record who are starving right now...... this is a shame and the government needs to change the laws that deal with non violent offenders and for people who have been charged falsely on reports that show them as a felon when they only committed a misdemeanor.

September 26, 2011
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@nyc94859 @cck99352 @fastnoc I believe it is the parents who are doing the lying, not Beasla. She has been pulled into this position because of their actions.

September 26, 2011
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It’s a pain to have snobbish parents, who brags even the smallest achievement their child has made.

They can’t blame her, as her “lies” were their reflections.

 

September 26, 2011
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Seen a few comments saying Beasla is lying to her parents ... just wanted to jump in and note that the story is saying it's actually the parents who are saying things to other people, and Beasla is saying she feels stuck having to go along with it.

September 26, 2011
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I disagree - the article clearly states she is lying to her parents... regardless, the title of the article, as well as the content, is poorly done.

September 26, 2011
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OK, I just reread the article (with the latest revisions) and it is even more pathetic. Just a ploy for attention. Time to move on to reading something worthwhile.

September 26, 2011
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i'm an unemployed person who would also like to get some job offers; my chief handicap is that i am not a young good looking girl, so i guess its all right not to show any support for me or send me any job offers

September 26, 2011
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so would i if i could make any money doing it

September 26, 2011
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Wait. "Forced to live a lie"? She isn't forced to live a lie! CNN - you are just too much. What a crock of crap!

September 26, 2011
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CNN is just too much .  they can do better with their stories. .

September 26, 2011
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my best friend's mom makes $77  an hour on the computer. she has been out of job for 9 months but last month her check was  $7487   just working on the computer for a few hours. read about it  and get started following the first step  "Online Income Solution" , here CashDone   .  com

September 26, 2011
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She would make a great used car salesman. Or maybe one of those people who sells investment packages to the elderly?

September 26, 2011
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Advice - Tell your parents they're knobs.  If I came from a family that pulled that kind of ish on me, I'd disown them.

September 26, 2011
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yet another example of whats wrong with america. People, stop living a lie. i mean cmon, seriously, you have to lie to you parents about your work? why dont you get over yourself and just be honest. you think your parents are gonna care if you got laid off. NO. yea maybe they wont be able to brag about you and your GLORIOUS job at a bank. but either way if they are decent people they are still going to be proud of you. I hope this chick never has kids, or gets married for that fact because that would be a disaster. if you cant tell your OWN parents the truth about your life then everything else is just going to be lies on top of lies. its women like this that messes up the "good guys" out there in the world. 

September 26, 2011
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She is 30 years old - way too old to be worrying about what other people think, including her family.  Clearly they are not helping her with financial or emotional support, so she has nothing to lose with picking up and moving to another area.  She'd probably be better off getting out from under their negativity. 

September 26, 2011
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I did not understand why she needs to lie.  Because her family would not approve of the truth?  And don't tell me I  don't understand how strongly her culture's familial ties are - if they were truly so strong, her family would support her even if they knew the truth.

 

Perhaps not lying to your family is a good place to start strengthening your ties?

September 26, 2011
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Emotionally abusive parents are emotionally abusive parents.

 

That being said, she should have told them the truth and stood up to them.  You don't stop being emotionally abused until you stand up to your abusers.

September 27, 2011
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Noone forced this woman to lie to the very people she could lean on in the time of need.   Most people rely on family and close friends during rough patches, but she has chosen to lie.  Whether she is ashamed or has some other reason, lying is never the way to go.   She's lying to herself too and prolonging her rough time.  How do you keep all the lies straight after this length of time? 

September 27, 2011
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I do have empathy for her, and I've been in similar circumstances. But, not telling her family the truth has nothing to do with losing her higher paying job, and everything to do with her cultural background and her character. Even at what she is making with her part time jobs , she's making more than a lot of folks. I also suggest she look for a roommate, tell her family and consider moving to a less expensive area to live.

September 27, 2011
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Welcome to the world of the 99%. Sukhraj needs to join #occupywallstreet or any other occupy site in her state which she can find on #occupytogether.

September 27, 2011
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Ok - no one is forced to LIE - seriously get real and get in touch with your family that loves you and be REAL - LIEING is not nice and hard for everyone you come in contact with - be authentic and get a life

September 27, 2011
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why not zoidberg?

September 27, 2011
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Nobody will sympathize with an Indian. I am fed up with stinky Indians walking around acting decent. Since the food you eat makes you smell disgusting, you should take more -not less- showers and wash/change your ugly clothes more frequently. Either that or go back to India. Enough is enough. And please speak in English, your accent is disgusting enough, don't make us throw up with your native language. You're not from Europe, don't be proud of anything, try to adapt.

September 27, 2011
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@EuroNat - you are one class act. Thanks for that. As for the rest of you, I'm not lying to anyone.

 

The original article states what is going on. Read it again you'll see what is going on. I'm still working so technically I'm not unemployed. Just looking for a better offer. The only people that can truly understand this are the ones going through it with me. I appreciate the support.

September 27, 2011
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"One guy even called me an idiot for turning down his offer because he and his wife are making half a million dollars with some coffee distribution company and they are their own bosses, etc.,” she wrote Monday morning.-

 

That's exactly what's wrong with the U.S. today. It has become lousy with obdurate, aggressive con artists, posers and bribers who are infesting every sector of business and life, from large corporations to small operators, from farm town churches to televangelism and from Congress to country courtrooms. There is hardly any room left for honest, working-class folks anymore. What makes it worse is that they seem to enable each other, and there is no end in sight. 

September 27, 2011
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Be proud Sukhar.  You are beautiful.  It is not your fault the economy is the way it is.  Tradition can be a funny thing.  But your willingness to work honorable jobs prove you are not the problem.

 

You are to be proud that you do not want to be a burden to your parent and are independent.

September 27, 2011
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@Euronat-Don't tell me, you recently awoke from a deep-sleep suspended animation machine into which you were put by your 1945 Third-Reich elite friends and you are hopping mad that your chauffer, footman and Mercedes 770k were not waiting at the ready, is that it? Little heads-up-nobody sings the Horst-Wessel Song anymore, the Fuhrer did not reincarnate and the Fatherland is waving the Weimar flag again. I'd could say that I'm sorry for your loss, but NAAAAAAHHH.

September 27, 2011
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I wonder if she has tried to get temp jobs via temp agencies.  They can easily become full time jobs if you impress the client.  A lot of jobs get created for the person the company wants to hire just because they want that person with their skills, talents, and personalities working there.  Temping is a great way to get your foot in the door.

September 27, 2011
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No one is forced to lie.  It was her choice...and a poor choice at that.  If she finds it so easy to deceive her family, how much easier is it going to be for her to deceive an employer?  I wouldn't hire her.

September 27, 2011
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Euronat...I think you mispelled your handle.  I think it should read Euronut.

 

As for Sukhraj...go talk to your parents!

September 27, 2011
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what a ridiculous story. tons of people out there without jobs and whose previous jobs weren't even close to $70k a year. boo hoo that you don't have the stones to tell your parents you lost your job.

 

boo.  hoo.

September 28, 2011
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beasla, I do hope you get the job or a job you like and that you can make your parents proud. But I hope they see what their expectations have done to you.

 

I've followed this story from the beginning when you posted your ireport and I was concerned that you exposed your parents as liars and I so hope that isn't going to destroy your relationship. It was brave of you to admit that your family has flaws but I know that success and employment are so attached to esteem in your parents' culture. I sympathize with them because they must be hurt and embarrassed. I hope you can all heal the hurt. Good luck!

September 28, 2011
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I believe any employer would be lucky to have Suki as an employee.  Suki has so much energy and such a positive outlook on life.  I can tell by her postings on FB of which she is a friend.  Go Suki Go!!!

September 29, 2011
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Torn on this one. No one likes to see anyone lose a job and struggle. At the same time, however, she was 28 and making $70,000 a year. That might not be a lot for some people, but there are many others who are much older and with more education, who make much less. Maybe it's time we adjusted our standards. As for her parent's high-brow community, they can stick it. She's trying her best - just support her. Good luck!

October 8, 2011
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I found Sukhraj Beasla's story by accident - I was looking to do some research on CNN's iReport public reporting experiment, and the story title caught my attention. Reading through it, and the associated comments on the blog, some things are very clear - which not be obvious to the mainstream reader.

 

Northern California has a large Punjabi population - to which she obviously belongs - which is very tight knit, especially in areas like Yuba City, Gridley etc. Without generalizing, agriculture is big in the community, and most  social occasions revolve around the local Sikh Temple.

 

The comment from her father that "'God, you're 30 years old and I really expected you to be somewhere right now,'" is not unheard of in the Indian-American community, which has high expectations of its children.

 

There are several unanswered questions in her story, which have been brought up by other readers, like why isn't she sharing an apartment etc, but on the whole, it should be a wake-up call for our community, which is an expert in creating new organizations and collecting funds for building bigger places of worship, but maybe not doing enough for the young and the elderly, who have fallen through the social cracks....

 

So what am I doing about it? Apart from raising the awareness for her situation in the Tribe Desi newsletter, I will be contacting her to get her resume'...

 

More at TribeDesi.com

June 24, 2012
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I went on a date with this girl a couple of years ago (we met on a dating site). She lied to me about her job also, and other things. She's not an honest person and for CNN to be glorifying this person, is just wrong.

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