- Posted July 31, 2013 by
Racism, stereotypes, etc.
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It is ridiculous that I have been stereotyped in my life and treated badly for something I did not choose. I chose to act on it, so my bad I guess (sarcasm). It is ridiculous that I have awakened to pounding and thought that someone was pounding a cross in my yard to burn because that had been threatened. It is ridiculous that I have been bum-rushed by a black man hugging up on me because he heard I dated "black MEN" not a black man. It is ridiculous that people got mad at Paula Dean for her racial slurs, but them referred to her as a "cracker". It is ridiculous that people claim that Zimmerman made it racial, when Martin referred to Zimmerman as a "creepy ass cracker" first! It is ridiculous that people claim that "nigga" is part of their culture and call each other that. It is even more ridiculous that white people use that word trying to be cool. It is a travesty that after what "black" people went through, "white" people still feel they can use that word without consequence. It is ridiculous that I see all these people's crisis plastered all over Facebook (a boy who was shot in the head and killed by black men, a black woman sent to jail for 20 years for defending herself) with an agenda other than sympathy for the victims.
Finally, on a lighter note, you have no clue how many times I hear people tell other people, "You know she has a little black baby." NO, my child is MIXED. These people don't mean anything by it (or most don't) other than to insinuate I am "cool." But how does that make me cool? You know nothing about me, but you assume I am cool because I have slept with a black man at least once in my life and got pregnant????? (Most don't know enough about me to even know I am married, have just seen some pictures of my "black" child.) Some are assuming that I am not available because I have a "black kid" so I must "only date blacks" (again not even knowing if I am married).
So, you see, stereotypes and racism do exist. They exist from everywhere. My life was not always easy as a "white woman". I am sure as a "mixed kid" my daughters life will not be easy from time to time. My husband's life as a "black" man has not been easy. All we can do is do the best with what we are, stick together, and hope for a better world, a better tomorrow, and a better life. This note is not written for sympathy. It is just something I felt I needed to get off my chest.
(This was a note I wrote on Facebook the day after the Zimmerman verdict)