- Posted August 22, 2013 by
Tilonia, Rajasthan, India
This iReport is part of an assignment:
Speaking up about sexual violence
India, America, and beyond!
All due respect to Ms. Rose Chasm and my deepest sympathies to what she had been subjected to in my country on her short visit. I was seething with anger. Yes, I was abashed by the reality that lay within her words... I was equally indignant over her isolation of this sort of happenings to India... and most infuriated by the absolute generalisation of our men and the complete acceptance it seemed to be getting from them! I wanted to scream out loud!
India within its inherent patriarchal paradigm sometimes shows us the worst of the male gender. Being groped, stared at, harassed mentally and physically all blur into the prerogative of this paradigm. But is this exclusive to India? Is that all there is to India? Are all Indian men creeps, rogues, and rapists? Why then en mass apologize for a gross generalisation?!
It takes much more than a 3-month stint here to project an unjaundiced view of our people. It requires a deep understanding of India’s vast cultural differences and the evolutionary variance in the widths of its population. The same India and its men can, will, and have shown civility, compassion, and camaraderie that many women will vouch for, Indian or otherwise!
To all my dear Indian friends of the other gender, you have shown me nothing but respect and kindness. Your undaunted support has sailed me through many a difficult times. The strength your love brings me is immeasurable. Do not let generalisation enfeeble you. Let us together feel a sense of responsibility for the “Indian men” Ms. Chasm encountered. Let us together make our contribution, small or big towards a larger reformation. But let us not forget, this goes further than you or India.
I get groped, stared at and harassed wherever I go… India, America and beyond!