- Posted September 2, 2013 by
This iReport is part of an assignment:
Speaking up about sexual violence
Guilty due to gender!?
I am a male who has multiple roles and interactions with women in Indian society: employer, colleague, boss, friend, lover, husband. I'm always left in awe at the dexterity with which the women handle themselves.
It can't just be gender-based multitasking capability - right?!
And it can't be as simple as managing everything on the "home" front so that the breadwinner can perform as necessary for as long as it takes. Since it's become increasingly obvious that the primary breadwinner IS (or can evolve to be) the woman.
Is it lifelong conditioning then?
And what's my part in it? My love of erotica, more-than-passing-interest in pornographic images, fantasies of "reluctant consensual" sex. Am I fundamentally viewing women as sex objects?
Even if I'm disgusted by the act of rape, am I so different in the attitudes that drive such behavior? Unfortunately, as I view the latest ads and films in India that flaunt provocative behavior of the latest Bollywood stars, I see near-constant promotion of exactly the same attitudes.
We face a huge chasm in the gap between the daily reality of the subjugated girl/woman (and their expected submissiveness) not "permitted" to exercise the most-basic rights and the open sexuality displayed on the screen. Combine this with the daily abuse inflicted on the less-powerful men in India - filthy hovels, poor to nonexistent sanitation/water/food, and diminishing economic opportunities.
Is this a recipe for an escape fantasy to exercise powerful urges by the typically-powerless on the subjugated object?
Does "Opportunity" remain the only element for rape to happen anywhere and at anytime…for any man in India!?!