- Posted September 2, 2013 by
Father fighting for custody
My name is Shane. I am 37, AC technician by trade. I was born in Cali, but moved to a ranch in MT at age 5 where I lived until I moved to AZ in Aug 1995. I’ve work construction since I moved to AZ and I started my own ac company Jan 2006. After a couple years the company had 5 service trucks and 8-12 employees. My father was the operations manager and everything was going great, but he unexpectedly passed away May 2009. My father was my best friend and the loss devastated me and my family.
My only son Wyatt was born July 2010. Shortly after he was born his mother (X1) took off and refused to allow me to see my son for over 4 months. She demanded $1,050 a month for me to see him. We went through an intense 9 months of litigations, her false allegations and not allowing me time with my son. (case # available) I was awarded primary residential parent with final say with majority custody. Not to mention the case financially exhausted me! (55K in attorney fees) X1 now has limited access to our son Wyatt, but her false allegations seem to continue, even though I have helped her get a job when her company closed the doors, helped her get a car, and got her dad a job at a landscaping company I do business with.
In Jan 2009 I was contacted by a former girlfriend (X2) we had dated for 5-6 months in end of 2006. At the time she was separated from her husband, because he had physically assaulted her (known trait in police officers homes, report # available) X2 informed me that I had a daughter Tatum that was 2. I knew she was pregnant when we split up last week of 2006, but she told me she had an ectopic pregnancy and lost the child shortly after our break up. We had no further contact due to her going back to her abusive husband and her losing the child (so I thought). After X2 contacted me, we had a few lunches, movies, and events involving myself, X2, and the child. I started seeing X2 on a regular basis and it became a friendship with sexual encounters as well, but I was little reluctant to get completely involved in the little girl’s life because she was still married to a police officer and she feared not only more physical abuse, but her biggest concern was that he’s never been disciplined for his actions in the past due to the fact that when the police were called, his buddies would be the ones showing up. All the incidents would be ignored or swept under the rug. (Her exact words “he knows he’ll never be charged, it’s the unspoken rule, we don’t convict our own”) So she lives in fear of him and his actions.
X2 did help me through a lot of the mental anguish I was going through with losing my father and when X1 was putting me and my family through hell. She appeared to be generally concerned with the wellbeing of me, my mom, and my son. In January 2011 I had a DNA test done on the little girl to confirm 100% she was my daughter. Test came back and 99.9% I am her father. Now knowing I had 2 children they had constant and consistent contact. My son and daughter got along great! The great bonding the 2 children had ignited X2 and me to start discussing rekindling our relationship as a couple, not only for us but for the children too. April 2011 her husband (police officer) again assaulted her in front of their 2 boys while he was holding the little girl and X2 left the home.(report # available) We got an apartment together out of his district as an officer. For her safety and to make her more comfortable it was on 2nd floor, I installed pick proof locks, (he’s trained to pick locks) I also had surveillance cameras installed in the apartment in case any abuse occurred when exchanging the children. We went and got ALL new furniture as kind of a fresh start gift for both of us and all seemed well. We even took a vacation to Las Vegas to the Super cross finals, because we both enjoy the sport. In June 2011 my office manager found a job closer to her home and I had a position available. My then girlfriend (X2) offered to take on the position, which she did. She did a great job and the company ran smoothly. In July 2012 X2’s brother returned from the war in Iraq and needed work. I hired him and began training him to become an ac tech. X2 filed for divorce Aug 2011.(case # available) The soon to be ex-husband was constantly causing problems and trying to keep the kids from her. So in Nov 2011 we broke our apartment lease and got a rental home near the soon to be ex-husband, because it would be easier for the children to commute back and forth. We got engaged Jan 14th 2012. First week of Feb 2012 she told me she could no longer be with me. She quit her job, went back to the abusive ex-husband, and they moved all of the new furniture I had purchased into his home while I was away.(case # available) Feb 2012 I had to terminate X2’s brother because my payroll account had no money in it and neither did any of the other company accounts! I immediately called my account and she noticed that none of the company bills had been paid for in the last couple of months! Yet the money was missing and all credit cards were maxed out. The accountant had discovered that the last couple months X2 had been forging my signature on checks and writing them to herself and to her ex-husband’s creditors, but making the books look as if all the company bills were being paid.(my accountant said X2 did a great job of hiding the fraud and it is probably not the first time she has done this) During the investigation the detective discovered that X2 had another bank account that she had been depositing the checks customers would write to the company (report # available) All totaled nearly $40,000!! (Investigating detective stated X2 did a very good job of covering her tracks) All of my supplier accounts were on hold and the company had no money to pay them. Not to mention ALL company bank accounts were frozen due to the fraud. I literally sold everything I owned to try to save the company, but X2 got it too far behind. I had no choice but to dissolve the company, file bankruptcy, and start working for another company.
In April 2012 I filed for custody of my daughter. (Case # available) X2 changed her phone number and refused to allow me to see my daughter. After I filed the custody suite X2 and her ex-husband were dodging the server for nearly 2 months. At our initial court date I realize X2 and ex-husband both had their own attorney. Come to find out X2 had been telling her husband, his family, her family, and their friends that the little girl was the husbands child, but telling my family and friends she was my daughter. X2 was living two completely separate lives! X2 had knowledge that child is my daughter, but she lied on her divorce docs stating the ex-husband was the natural father of my daughter. (Falsifying a divorce document is a crime) X2 and her ex-husband (they still live together) have disputed and appealed every decision the judge has made costing me precious irreversible time with my daughter and compounding attorney fees. Our trial date was moved yet again, because the judge ordered us to participate with a custody evaluator. I have fulfilled my obligations with the evaluator, but X2 has not! The evaluator sent an email to all the attorney’s stating she can’t evaluate a child she hasn’t seen. This prolongs the process and adds yet more attorney fees! X2 refuses to bring the child in or pay her portion of the evaluator’s fee. (yet, X2 had the time and money to go to school for a year)
X2 wants me out of my daughter’s life, but she wants back child support from the date she was born and she is requesting monthly support as well!
Our custody court date was Sept 2013, but it again has been moved to Dec 2013 due to X2’s lack of compliance with the courts orders. And if that wasn’t enough, I recently discovered that X1 and X2 have been in contact for over a year, plotting, preparing, X1 making even more false allegations, and they are now working together to try and get me to pay them steep monthly support payments to each of them! To date my attorney’s fees (custody, bankruptcy, civil) due to the actions of X2 are already over 35K and they are estimated to be 15-20K more! That’s on top of the money X2 took from my company and all the income I lost!
To sum up, due to two women I had children with in the last three years I’ve spent nearly 100K in attorney fees, lost my company, lost 4 months of my son’s life, lost over 2 years of my daughter’s life, nearly lost my home, and had to file bankruptcy! Yet I still wake up every morning with a smile and a positive attitude knowing once all this is straightened the children’s lives will be better. Children are innocent and it tears me apart how many people try to use them as a tool for their own personal benefit!!! Numerous people, even one of my attorneys have told me “most men would have given up a long time ago”. I refuse to give up on my children! I want people and men out there to be inspired by my story and it will give them strength to fight for their kids! I’ve spoken to numerous men to help them through their custody issues and I’d love to get my word out to as many as possible.
I can provide further details as needed. Three different attorneys have told me they’ve never seen a case like this and that I should, get it in the news, write book, turn it into a movie, or a TV show. I’ve given this a lot of thought and I would be interested in pursuing that, I’m just unaware of the proper steps to accomplish it. That is why I am contacting you.