- Posted September 5, 2013 by
Avon Park, Florida
This iReport is part of an assignment:
The Peter Pan Syndrome in Black America
Peter Pan was the main character in a Scottish novel about a troublesome boy who could fly and would never age, while he was a leader of a gang called the lost boys out of the Neverland. As we know Michael Jackson named his estate the Neverland Ranch as he pretended he was a Peter Pan of sorts but he died but not from old age as many who contracted the Peter Pan Syndrome have died and many on the violent streets of America.
The Peter Pan Syndrome is about the many kids in a America who never grow up, while they find comfort in things detrimental to their gaining maturity. And it is costing America, because rather we like it or not they are our future. At some time and place we will depend on them as our caretakers, leaders and workforce. But will they be able to answer the call? That is the question.
For a long time I preached about the symbolic castration of the black male in America. Whereby our manhood's were stolen by design by the system in a conspiracy to destroy the black family structure. But I realize it is not just a black problem anymore as many other races of people are now facing similar situations. Perhaps it is collateral damages and if so, still the problem exist within the other communities as well. That said!
The Peter Pan Syndrome is about babies making babies, generation after generation, this is not something that just started. And as a result of unprepared parenthood, the children are not properly raised or molded properly and they never grow up to become disrespectful and defiant girls and boys. They do not become men or women in a timely manner, but when they do grow up, they then find themselves with grown children themselves who like them are disrespectful and defiant. A vicious cycle! The result of this is perpetual oppression, community drug infestation, high crime rates, peer on peer crime in the case of black communities black on black crime, high rates of illiteracy, high rates of incarceration, redlining in the communities they exist in and everyone thinking that success is being able to move out of the community they were raised in, to escape the Peter Pan Syndrome within.
The Peter Pan Syndrome developed all the way back to the transatlantic slave trade and as a result black men for a long time in racist America were referred to as boys and niggers and if you tell someone something long enough he starts to wonder if it is true and becomes confused himself as to who he is. Remember this went on for generations and as a result of the civil rights movements of the 60's many blacks begun to grow away from this self hatred mentality, but today black people call themselves boys and niggers in camaraderie. They are in fact the Lost Boys of America and they are being led by the head boy who seems to never grow up in delusional world of sex, drugs, rap music, fantasy television and video games. And it is sad. Men over 25 years old, playing video games everyday, not even pretending to look for labor of any sorts or a check from somewhere. As they have grown to become laidback (lazy) as a result of hopelessness. And if President Obama sent a freedom train tomorrow (Job Opportunities) and said all you need is a GED, many of them would be too lazy to get on it, because they have the minds of children and think it is alright to depend on their parents endlessly.
I know it is hard out there today. Personally in my 54 years of existence, I never seen it so hard for so many people, whereby 40% of the population is jobless. Many people actually play crazy to survive, whereby before getting a crazy check was taboo. Today getting a crazy check is a sign of respect and dignity, because it offers some level of independence, which very few people in the black community have. But the Peter Pan Syndrome doesn't allow a fool enough sense to take the initiative to gain from their disability, they are often too hopeless and childlike to realize they are mentally ill and need help. The Peter Pan Syndrome doesn't allow a drunk and drug addict to get help, so that they can become a part of the system of recovery from substances to gain assistance for food and housing to get out of their hell hole. Rather than stop using they prefer to beg on the streets for nickels, dimes and quarters to get another quart of malt liquor and live with there mothers, while making babies with undeveloped girls. Oh and a step up is selling drugs to become a felon, to have an excuse to do what they did all of their lives, which is nothing but listen to degrading rap music, play video games, watch fantasy television, have sex and get high and say "I am living life to the fullest boy", especially if they can turn a buck on the street corners. It is sad day in America, I must say.
There is a solution, but a person will not accept help unless they themselves want it. You cannot force a person to receive treatment for drugs, alcohol or mental illness unless they want it, they have to accept they have a problem first to grow from these benefits. Sure you can send a person to treatment, but they will not grow un les they want it.
I believe the black community is a sick community, with what I call the Peter Pan Syndrome and I explained the symptoms, such as drug and alcohol abuse and addictions, systematic vegetation or doing nothing to grow in life, dependence on our parents, ill responsible procreation, disrespect towards those we depend on, as if they are the villains and not the rescuers, because we feel we are owned something because we ourselves are unprepared to survive in this unfair world, hopelessness and depression that can even lead to instant suicide as we are already are killing ourselves slowly but surely or killing our neighbors due to disrespect for us on the streets on the fly.
The solution is family counseling. People who do not know what to do, need to be told how to better themselves and their loved ones. A baby has not the ability to raise a baby or take care of themselves. And I think this is so big that the government has to step in and support non profit agencies to carryout these tasks. This will take billions of dollars to carryout, because it calls for changing the mindset of whole communities. The black community has become a huge Neverland, full of lost boys and girls who must be saved and shown a way to grow up of the Peter Pan Syndrome and this is a national crisis and a national security issue and we must address this as soon as possible.
Frank Paul Jones
President and Chairman of the NCNCHINC