- Posted September 7, 2013 by
This iReport is part of an assignment:
Speaking up about sexual violence
Same story.. different place..
My first experience to this ugly face of society was early. I used to hang out with other kids of my age, 8 or 9 years old, in my neighbourhood. After playing in grounds, sometimes I used to go their place because Aunty would feed us delicious food. I hadn’t acquainted with their father but I didn’t need to. One day, he was sitting next to me when he put his hand on my shoulder. That could have been a common gesture because he was my friends’ dad. Then he slowly moved his hands down my shoulder to my back. I was uncomfortable so I stood stiff. He rubbed my back and tried a little harder under my arm and touched my chest. I didn’t even have breasts then. The memories are vague. I remember there were people in the room talking and I couldn’t react about it because I didn’t know what it was. I was harassed around 18 years back but when I think of it now, I feel disgusted. Disgusted of the fact those pedophiles walk high.
Whether it is the darkness of movie theatres, or the rush of public vehicles, walking down the streets or even standing in a queue to purchase a ticket; there will be men who will want to grope you for their pleasure or fulfil the sickness in their beliefs. I have often heard that a woman can be safe if she wants to be safe. I wonder if anyone who has said that is a woman.
The problem lies in our society and the way children are raised. I think men start believing women of lesser priority in the way their father treat their mothers and it continues with them. In societies like ours, I don’t think education is adequate to stop this. We have had high literacy rates, both Nepal and India, in recent years but the cases like sexual harassment have accelerated. It is not possible to ring every bell and wake everyone’s conscience about gender equity, social inclusion, and bringing about a healthy education and legislative system. I don’t pay taxes to feel insecure in my own city. I think it is everyone’s responsibility to act civil, stop where they see something awful like sexual harassment is happening or at least, try. It will be generations before women are treated equally and not objectified as sex symbols. But it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t start today.