- Posted October 13, 2013 by
This iReport is part of an assignment:
Bullying awareness: Your story
Bullying: A Kid's Eye View
In fifth grade, that's just five years ago for me, school was torture. I switched classes in the middle of the year and was landed, unsocial, unkempt, and unpopular, in with an entire new group of kids.
The real trouble started when I made friends with another unpopular tomboy. Even more unpopular than me. Before long the school was subtly abuzz with the rumor that we were bisexual and had kissed each other. I'll be honest here, that bothered me. Say what you will, but she was my best friend and I wanted it to stay that way. No romance in any way shape or form.
It got so bad that one day at recess, I tried to avoid her entirely. I hate myself for that to this day. But I couldn't do it to her. I abandoned my efforts I think before she had even noticed.
Of course I was bullied for other things too. I had become so alienated that it made me a target for my newfound social incompetence. I once cried during recess as someone I had once called a friend taunted me. I toughened up and pushed through.
So a typical bulling story... very sad. But what's the biggest thing wrong with this picture? No one knew. I didn't tell my parents because, well, I don't know why. I guess I thought it would make me seem weak. So I cried quietly into the grass under the "watchful" eyes of ten or twelve teachers. None of them saw my red eyes and snotty shirt. None of them heard the insults. How?
When we look for bullying, we look for pushing and shoving, social networking campaigns. We listen for shouting and sobbing. The reality of bulling is something else entirely for most kids. It's whispers and rumors and victims pretending they're okay, wiping their noses on their sleeves and putting their heads down to hide tears.
To solve bullying we must be on high alert, not for emotion, but for stoicism! A child who withdraws into themselves is never okay! I know. I did it. Look for the children who aren't themselves and ask them what's wrong. Then ask them again.