- Posted October 15, 2013 by
This iReport is part of an assignment:
Bullying awareness: Your story
Bullying takes many forms
A best friend is someone to cherish. There is comfort and joy in their presence. In this case that ends with the friend. "Angie" gets told by her friends mother how she's not good enough... not smart enough... not athletic enough... to be friends with "Becky." Not only are these things told to "Becky" (who passes them on to "Angie") but have been said to "Angie" directly by this mother.
"Becky"'s mother is a high-school teacher. She has proclaimed herself to be an expert at identifying bullying and stopping it in her classroom. But she herself is a bully. She brings "Angie" to tears and causes her to feel depressed and unworthy. Not long ago "Angie" began cutting. Her usual confidante had been told "Angie" had been banished from "Becky"'s house - the two were no longer allowed to be friends.
They've leaned on each other through the worst of middle school. They shared in each others joys and pains. They never got in trouble together. They schemed, they plotted, they viewed each other as BFF's... The influence they've had on each other has been one of building inner strength and confidence - how is that bad?
"Becky"'s mom has stated she has no issues with "Angie" but her actions speak volumes. We as adults need to be the guiding influence in stopping bullying. If we are bullies then how will our children see bullying as bad? We need to identify this behavior in ourselves and stop it at the source... us as parents.