- Posted October 18, 2013 by
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Your 'Aha' weight-loss moments
Hot Mom's "Non-Apology" is Heartless
Maria Kang’s “What’s Your Excuse” meme and story went viral. Honestly, I can see why people would like or dislike the picture. I think that she is a proud mom who makes fitness a huge part of her life and at first I thought it was used as motivation to inspire others. Some people took it a different way and then it blew up into this crazy viral fitspiration thing.
But yesterday I read the “non-apology” a few times. I saw a few interviews with Maria. I even read some opinions on CNN.
And I am now embarrassed that I did not look into this a little more. I was over 400 pounds. I lost a lot of weight and I workout and eat right now.
Because this is much more than a “fitspo”.
This is about a heartless “non-apology”
First off the words “bullying” and “haters” should not be used in this situation at all. A “hater” is someone who tries to find flaws when someone is proud of something. Very few people are finding flaws in her accomplishments. Maria posted the question. She used the dumb “fitspo” phrase. She is basically telling others that people are making excuses, but she is not. No one is bullying her as well. If you go to a bar and call someone a name and then they call you names back, that is not bullying. If you start a fire, be accountable for the damage.
Second, who is skirting around the “obesity epidemic”. Actually, what is the “obesity epidemic”? I will tell you. It is a money maker. It is where companies will sell people dreams, five star diamond generals will sell people systems and doctors will put the fear in everyone. When I was over 400 pounds, not many people were my size. They have closed down every big and tall store around me because business is bad. When I went to the hospital, I saw very few obese people. People need to take care of their health, but it is insulting to others to say everyone is ignoring their health.
Third, because Maria can do something does not mean everyone else can. I hate when people say that. Everyone can be healthy. Everyone can run a marathon. Everyone can achieve their dreams. Everyone can do some things. But everyone cannot do what I do. Everyone cannot do what you do. That is such an elitist view.
No one should discredit Maria. It angers me when people talk about her kids or what she is wearing or if the picture is even real. That is petty. I am sure she is a good mom, her kids are adorable and honestly, she looks like her picture. She has plenty more to prove it.
But she does not consider the ones she wants to help. The reason she made the picture in the first place.
Weight loss takes courage, not fear. I truly feel that people know they have time to workout. But who wants to go somewhere that they feel they will be ridiculed? Who wants to weigh more than 350 pounds and order a salad when the cashier might laugh? Who wants to lose 100 pounds only to find a ton of loose skin? Who wants to lose 200 pounds only to have their skin sag over their arms?
But people confuse excuses with life. Losing a child in 2011 and gaining over 80 pounds is not an excuse. Being over 400 pounds for over 10 years is not an excuse. Working out for two hours a day and eating cleaner than most people today is not an excuse…
It is life. My life. Everyone has one. Everyone is accountable for theirs.
And once again I agree that Maria is not a bully or a bad mom. I do agree that people should not downplay her accomplishments. I agree that you have helped people and I agree that you deserve the attention you are getting.
But the “non-apology” and interviews are condescending and downplaying others.
Today I went to one of my son’s performances at his school. I was able to sit on the floor next to him. I could not do that five years ago. I struggle and I am still weak, but I refuse to ever be 400 pounds again. I learned a while back obesity is only solved in the mirror.
Health has nothing to do with six pack abs…
Because I will agree that Maria is in incredible shape.
But being healthy is a whole other story.