- Posted October 20, 2013 by
Jeddah, Saudi Arabia
This iReport is part of an assignment:
Bullying awareness: Your story
Be A Parent, Be A Friend
My profile photo has been in purple after seeing the post of Oprah on her stand against bullying and support to LGBT youth.
I’ve been saying this all the time… that I am a mother of two and it’s never been very easy for me being far away from my two children. I love them both equally and unconditionally but no two or three persons have the same personality. My eldest is about to turn 15 years of age in three months yet I always check on his wall and newsfeeds every now and then. I communicate with him openly and I believe that whatever I tell him, he reciprocates it with sincerity. Every online conversation that we have just startles me. But to think that I am this far physically, I have no assurance that I have done my part successfully. Every day I pray that he’s told me everything. When he was younger, I knew his password. Later on, when I realized that he has become a responsible teenage boy. I let him go but I always remind him to keep our communication open (online). My sons and I don’t have enough time on Skype yet always make sure we always have hilarious abd wonderful moments .
Of course I know the Facebook password of my 2nd and youngest son. I don’t think it’s an invasion of his privacy. He changed his password thrice and every time I asked him, he gave it without hesitation. He’s 12 years old and he’s so vulnerable with words which he encounter every day at school, in public and online . I admit that I have been an online spy against my own son. When I see him posting a comment that’s a little inappropriate, I would send him a private message right away. I check all his messages once a week. I would raise my brows when I read something not-so-good and I would laugh when read his jokes. So far, I haven’t found any sign of bullying.
In my opinion, if nobody will keep track of our kids’ interactions online, there’s a possibility that they will be misled. It starts with a joke and then another joke until it hurts. It is our responsibility as parents to discipline our children. Nobody is perfect in this world, my sons aren’t’ either. One of my sons was put to disciplinary action once and my mother was advised to transfer him to another school for the school administration thinks he’s not a good influence. But, my brother fought back and stressed that it is the parents responsibility to discipline their children and not the school’s. My brother and I made a decision and it was successful. He talked to my son with no sign of disappointment. While I on the other hand, spoke to him with soft and motherly approach.
I am so fortunate that I have my mother and my brother who have exerted all their efforts as guardians to my children.
We as parents should take responsibility of our children’s behavior no matter how painful it is. It must not be in a dictatorial manner or through excessive disciplinary action. It must be discussed within the family as well as in the community, in order to raise more awareness. Hopefully, such cases of bullying will decline and will be completely eradicated in the future.
Photo # 1 – Facebook profile photo captured with #powercam and filtered through iphone
Photo # 2 – Status Update
Photo # 3 - Timeline