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    Straight White Male (The Victim)


    CNN PRODUCER NOTE     Richardlucas shared an opinionated essay with iReport, explaining that groups like straight white men are often overlooked in conversations about equal rights. He was inspired to write this iReport after he felt discriminated against while searching for an apartment because of his heterosexual orientation. 'People are offended that I felt discriminated against just "one time" which pales in comparison to the countless times they have been,’ he said. ‘These responses just increased my belief that there is a desperate need for equality, people shouldn't have to be treated that way, ever. At the same time, it doesn't justify my being discarded either. It all needs to go.' He acknowledges commenters who have criticized him on his essay, and feels that their anger is ‘misguided.'

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    There, I said it right off the bat; I’m a white straight male. To make matters worse, I don’t suffer from any physical ailments, I don’t hail from a road with the word ‘mile’ in it, and woe is me, my parents are not divorced. I am a victim of my generation.

    “How dare you call yourself a victim?”, you’re probably thinking. Which is exactly why I am, because society says I can’t be.


    Let me begin by saying, and I want to make this abundantly clear, I am not homophobic and I do not hate gay people. As it happens, I have several very good, very gay friends, and that’s super. Frankly, I could not possibly care less where people put their whatever, doesn’t make the slightest bit of difference to me. I also believe that people should be treated equally; gay, bi or even--straight.

    You don’t need me to inform you that over the past few decades our approach to same-sex romance has changed. It has, and I think that’s great. I think it’s wonderful that people are finally free to express themselves and be who they are without fear of persecution, provided it doesn’t in turn persecute others.

    I worry that the proverbial closet has developed a revolving door, and us ‘straights’ are being pushed in.

    A few years ago, for the first time in my life, I experienced what it was to be discriminated against due to my sexual orientation. I was flatly denied an apartment in Fort Lauderdale, FL. For no reason whatsoever other than the fact that I don’t sleep with men. I was shocked. It wasn’t a subtle rejection either. The man looked at me in disgust when I told him I was straight. His squinted eyes implied that I was the worst kind of person, seemingly trying to infiltrate their blissful, straight-free existence. The truth was, I just wanted a place to live. Wasn’t to be.

    It didn’t feel very good. I wouldn’t wish that feeling upon anybody.

    I read an article earlier that talked about the rights of LGBTQX--I’ll admit, I’m not even sure what the last two are-- It heavily suggested that the world is comprised of straight people, and everyone else. It confused me a great deal.

    I was under the impression that much of the call for equality was for people to be equal. If this is indeed the case, why are straight people now being separated from the rest? Should we not be calling it LGBTQXS? Or better yet, not calling it anything at all? Might I suggest that rather than labeling each other with catchy acronyms, we just be ourselves? Before we inevitably thrust another group of people outwards to social isolation.

    Some might be offended by my concept that straight people are being increasingly discriminated against. If that is you, than you are the problem. You are the problem because you see a sense of entitlement one way or another that relates to peoples rights as individuals. It is your narrow minded thinking that says people are not in fact to be who they are, unless they concur with your way of thinking. You are a hypocrite.

    It perplexes me to listen to people speak so passionately about their rights as individuals, while at the same time chastising those who disagree with them. Isn’t the entire point to accept people? To acknowledge that the right to individualism inherently belongs to every person, regardless of their beliefs?

    As a straight person, it is no longer socially acceptable for me to express my opinion about anything related to sexual orientation. This is actually quite convenient for me, because I don’t have much of an opinion on the topic. I don’t believe it should matter.

    I do believe that people should not be discriminated against. I also believe that this LGBT and so on movement is waging a social battle that doesn’t seem to have a purpose other than to further divide and alienate people.

    So to these folk who are taking this so far that you are actually considering the heterosexual among us as your civil enemy: Stop. Realize that you’re actually becoming a proponent of all that you claim to hate and preach so vehemently against.

    Don’t hate me for being who I am. I was born this way.

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