- Posted December 10, 2013 by
Havelock, North Carolina
Permanent Birth Control and The Huge Regret That Can Follow
That is what I did at the ripe age of 19 years old. I had gotten pregnant with my first child at 17 years old and delivered him at 33 weeks and he was a one of those tiny preemie babies you see that you just don’t know how to hold them or if you should even hold them because you are afraid to break them.
After he had came home and 7 months had passed my husband at the time and I had decided we wanted to take a mini vacation to have some time together because between him working, the baby, and me going to high school we didn’t get to spend a lot of time being newlyweds or together at all other then to sleep next to one another. We took our short three-day vacation and I forgot my birth control pills. One month later thinking I had food poisoning I learned was pregnant again!! I was only 18 years old and had been married less than a year. How could I be so fertile I thought to myself? So when the time came to visit the OB/GYN I made the rash decision to pay out of pocket and go around insurance to have my tubes tied and at the age of 18 thought this was a great idea. Two children was plenty for a young couple right? Wrong!!!
Fast forward 7 years to present day where not only am I remarried but so is my first two sons father. We have since moved on and found our life partners because at sixteen I had dove into marriage headfirst and both him and I learned that it just wasn’t going to work. Now being remarried the yearning to have a child with my husband who is the “One”. We all know the “one” who we can laugh with, cry with, and to be our best friend that one. Well I found him and now we are going through a crazy mess! He has no children and we both want a child together. We went to have my tubal ligation reversed but once the surgical team was able to go into my abdomen with a camera they learned the harsh truth that there would be no possibility for repair and that our only route of conception meant to go through the path of IVF. Now learning the long process of IVF and wondering will my husband be in the United States long enough to go through the conception process with me without being deployed with the Marine Corps I look back at that decision I made when I was 18 years old to get my “tubes tied” and wish I could change it.
I know that many young moms go through the dilemma that I did of wanting their tubes tied because another child simply isn’t an option but if you ask me being in my teens and even had I been a mother in my twenties making that decision should have been last resort. I should have opted for any other form of birth control because now my husband and I are going to pay a huge price to conceive a child together. So if you’re a young mother and you are considering the permanent birth control you should consider other options and realize that the future holds many things but to do something that is not meant to be undone can be one decision you may regret later.
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