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2.2% Divorce Rate in Egypt. More Young Women Braving A Harsh Reality For Personal Freedoms
Divorce is such a threatening yet thrilling word in Eastern communities. While divorce statistics in Egypt are relatively low, they are also rising. According to Egypt’s Central Agency for Public Mobilisation and Statistics (CAPMAS), the country in 2012 recorded a 2.2% divorce rate (slightly up from 2011). Among my group of friends, the rise in a few years is heart-breaking.
The society regards divorce as an indelible stain of shame every woman risks carrying when deciding to take the step of ending her marriage. No man, except for very few, would accept to marry a divorced woman. Marrying a virgin woman is the goal of every Eastern man; a goal that surpasses choosing a well-minded woman. I couldn’t find a clear justification for that virginity-must rule but that society sees a woman who’s been with another man as not fit for another! Ridiculous and shameful!
The Unpleasant Reality
Although we are a society that claims to be religious, discreet and prudent by nature, behind closed doors one is faced with ugly truths and unpleasant realities of life.
Where do I start? From the husband or the woman who brought up the husband, or from the wife or the woman who brought up the wife, I fall into a tangled web where all is to blame for the shattering of the family unit. But I can clearly remember that from an early age we were fed a hadith (saying by the Prophet) allegedly attributed to Prophet Muhamed – peace be upon him – that divorce would shake the throne of Allah. Such hadith is just a mere lie and has no strong backing.
It all started a few days ago when Noureen my friend announced through a facebook post that she was now a single parent. I stared at my laptop screen speechless, because to me, divorce is such a hard decision to make especially for young women. Another friend Fatemah immediately liked and shared Noureen’s post. My brain was now thinking fast. Did that mean that Noureen and Fatemah were both divorced? Or maybe their husbands passed away, that could be another possibility for being a single parent.
But, no, unfortunately both were divorced. I have three divorced friends and many more on the verge of it. Noureen however has 13 other friends in our age group (around 28 years old) in the same predicament. “Why?” was my question!
Noureen said, “In my point of view, one can endure 1 or 2 serious problems and still continue a marital life, but I had around 5 or 6, so that was a NO.” She went on to say in light humor, “I mean you may hear about an evil mother-in-law or a bad life condition, or a financial problem, or an unemotional husband, etc … actually I had them all. Soooo LUCKY.”
F.O. gave another perspective. To her, it was much more complicated. After just 3 months of engagement, she discovered that “he only cares about sex and that was the main reason he wanted to get married. He lacks self-confidence; he has no sense of responsibility, he cares only for his family, especially his sister as he can’t do anything without her orders. He wanted to cut me off my family and friends. He depends on me in everything.”
P.ease continue reading on: http://www.duniamagazine.com/2013/12/2-2-percent-divorce-rate-in-egypt-young-women-enduring-a-harsh-reality/