- Posted January 27, 2014 by
This iReport is part of an assignment:
Confessions from imperfect parents
Putting together the pieces: Being a parent to a child on the spectrum
I remember what it was like before they were born. As a young adult, I set out with the desire to change the world. I wanted to accomplish as much as possible, run church programs, start charities, fulfill every goal on a long list I had made. If there was a need, I wanted to be the one to fill it. I was passionate about making a difference in the world and I pursued every opportunity to attempt it. I didn't know that I would soon be preparing to be a mom to not just one but 3 special needs children, our 2 biological, and 1 adopted. I've got a lot left to learn, we are all learning every day but having answers is better than being in the dark. We can't run from the truth, we need to embrace it and allign ourselves as parents to adapt accordingly. That may mean making a lot of life adjustments so life can be just a little easier for them.
I'm ready to be there, to be their hero, to be their shoulder to cry on during the "bad days." And despite those hard days, we still dance together in the sunshine or even in the middle of a casual chain restaurant because they asked us to, we still share every single treasured moment that the other families do, even if for us, it might look a little different. People ask me how we do it, day in and day out, and I follow the advice that was given to me - take one day at a time. Treasure each one. It might be filled with both good and bad, but you get a chance to see how strong you can be, how strong they can be, and how strong you really are as a family. God has blessed us with gifted children, and they are nothing less than that - a gift.
Whereas once, I set out to be someone who would change the world for the better, what I found instead was 3 beautiful children who have changed mine for the better.