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    The Marriage Mouse Sounds Off

    Dear Marriage Mouse:
    I have been in an exclusive relationship for 7 years and just found my guy on match.com. This is not the first time he has been on dating sites and each time he tells me he won't do it again. What should I do? I'm stunned, shocked, heartbroken, embarrassed, disappointed, furious...
    Matchless in Memphis

    Dear Matchless:
    In every relationship, there is one specific moment, one action, or one sentence giving you the freedom to move on.

    When your brain says ENOUGH, make sure your actions reinforce your words and support your needs. You have reached your breaking point. No threats are necessary. No ultimatums will reverse your position. Do not send mixed messages in an attempt to get your partner to shape up.

    Focus on yourself and your needs. The time has now passed to accept too little or to accept unfair arrangements.

    Take the time to go deep into yourself and become firm in the realization of what you are entitled to and of what your tolerances were but no longer are.

    I call men like you found cheating on you Relationship Rats. Dead-end Rats want your time but don’t want to move into a relationship. These Rats are commitment-phobic. As Oprah Winfrey wisely said, “When people SHOW you who they are, believe them the first time!” I would take her statement one step further: “When Rats SHOW you and TELL you who they are, believe them the first time!”

    Leave the relationship NOW. Years go by quickly, and you have only one life to live, so don’t waste precious love, energy, or time with a commitment-phobic Rat.

    You deserve your Forever Love. Kick your Relationship Rat to the curb and start healing so you will be ready for your Forever Love.

    Please reach out to me if I can be of further help. I send you my best.

    And so life goes...on and on.

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