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    Posted March 1, 2014 by
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    My advice to men like me

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    No More Excuses...

    My advice to men like me is to have a plan. You must know what you want in life and how you plan to achieve it. It's okay to be more than an athlete or a rapper. You have the knowledge and ability to accomplish more than you can imagine.

    Having no father-figure in your life is a temporary excuse.

    Attach yourself to positive people who genuinely want to see you succeed. This alone should be the driving force behind your success. Watch the people that are around you. If they have no plans, chances are they'll bring you down with them. While it seems cool emulate what you see on television, there are consequences for your actions.

    I agree that young men of color are "at risk." People must first understand that black males do not get the same opportunities. We often do not get a second chance for our mistakes. It is a problem that starts within the household.

    The black community does not seek professional therapy.

    There are life events that most never psychologically recover from. That causes some to make poor judgement in their decisions! Many black males are caught up pursuing the lifestyles of the rich and famous forgetting that it takes hard work.

    Once a black male accomplishes not being another statistic, there are a whole new set of challenges. This is a problem I face today. I am 25 years old, no arrest record, and have a bachelor's degree.

    I am often told it's not what I know, but who I know.

    If this is the challenge I'm facing now; can you imagine what those who's been through the prison system are going through? Those are the "at risk" who need help more than ever. "My Brother's Keep" is great because it will show them how to succeed without falling back into a life of crime. As for me, I will continue to read and educate myself every day until opportunities knock.
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