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The problem of religions, nationalities, and races in the modern world
I know that you are hurt and have a hard time, but listen to me that is the power of money that make friends to foe and relative to enemy. You know that I am like you. I born also in a family with two religions Bahai and Moslem. I was 14 as for the last time my father called me to his bed and said Djalal. I am dying today or tomorrow. Your mother is a nice woman, help her and be in my place for her. You have also 7 other brothers and sisters, they will be nice to you. He looked with his almost dead eyes in my eye and the light of his eyes were fainted and he kept my hand in his skinny hand, which was only bone and skin. He was over one year in bed and was sick. I do not know which illness he had, but he fight for one year in bed. All his powers have gone.
I remember him in a dark blue uniform as a colonel of the police. His uniform was covered with gold medals and his high huge body as a sport man was like a king for me as he kept my little hand in his big hand and we walked on the street and the people liked him and salute him with a friendly way. All his muscles have gone; there was no muscles in his body any more. He looked at me and said Djalal, I have a daughter, her name is Light, please take care of her and give your words that you will take care of her. This powerful proud man now was looking in my eye, the little boy with love and asking. Please Djalal promise me that you will take care of Forogh, my light of life. I started to cry and said, Oh yes father I will do everything that I can for her. No, Djalal, you must promise me that you will take care of her like your own daughter and love her as your own daughter. I loved her More than a sister. Please promise me, so I can die in peace. I said , Yes father I promise it to you, And I cried bitterly.
He smiled at me and said Djalal; I believe your words and promise. I know that you will keep your promise and will never break your words. So he gave me his light of his life the smallest child that he had. And after that the last light of his eyes has gone, He closed his eyes and open it again, but there was no life in his body and no light in his eyes any more. My half sister came in the room and took me in her arms and kissed me with love and cried so bitterly. The father gone and all of us nine children have lost the powerful man who fight for many years with his sickness and died after he was one year in bed.
My sister the little girl, with the big eyes was in the other room and was looking at me, with love and trust, later she came in my arms and kissed me, too. Amir, you know all of these. You are hurt by his friend, whom you helped and he misused the law in Iran. As there is no interest in Iran and the inflation is very high, he wanted to pay you as late as possible. That was his goal. But listen what my family did with me. Amir, I know it is hard to be misused by a friend, whom you loved and trusted so much, but listen to my story. After my father died, I was now the head of the family. My mother the lovely lady was very upset, but what she can do? Life continues and we must go further.
I changed my school, because the children were now very cruel to me.
As a child without a father and a Baha’i mother I was in trouble. So I must go to other school, which was about one hour walking from my house. The children throw stones to me and said bad words about Baha’i and that I have no father any more. I finished the high school, my mother sent me later to a Christian High School as in the public Moslem High school the children make the life hard for me. I finished the university. Forogh finished the private university.
I finished the government university. Now Forogh wanted to go to other countries for her MA. She has a salary from her father which was divided by her step mother. That was enough in Iran, but not for a student in England. So Djalal gave the rest to her and she went happily to England for study. Djalal paid always the rest with love to her and wanted that the little sister should not have any difficulties in the life for the financial problem. Now Forough has her MA and wanted to be married. But the two religion problems now came in the face. For Moslems, Forough was Bahai with a Bahai mother.
For Bahai she was a daughter of a Moslem dead father and with 8 brothers and sisters who were Moslems. They afraid or did not like to have Bahai relatives after the marriage. For the Bahai she was the daughter of a Moslem father. For the Moslem she was the daughter of a Bahai mother. And so they run away and Forough was very sad and disappointed about this.
And blamed Djalal, that he should do something. Djalal introduced his good friends and even his Europeans and Americans friends and even asked her American friends to find a good husband for her.
Than Forough said, listen here I cannot get a normal husband. I will go for study in the USA and will try there to get a normal husband and will study, too. Djalal agree that he will take care of the mother in Iran and take care of the house so she can go to the USA and try to have a nice life in the land of opportunities. So she went to the USA and Djalal stayed in Tehran with his mother. In Iran the war started and Iran and Iraq used force for each other. The business people make this war, to sell their weapons to both countries and use their young people for seeing how their weapons function.
The insurance companies made a big money, too. In the Persian golf area the insurance for the ships got high, so they make more money. In this time Forough afraid to come back and she preferred to stay in the USA. But to stay there was not easy. She should marry some one for staying there. Her cousin found a man for her. She said this is a good man. He was 25 years older than Forough, had no university degree and was married before with children. He was a play boy type person, who enjoys the life with the money of other people. Forough was a good target for him. So Forough wrote to her brother that she found somebody to marry.
The mother and brother were happy as their daughter and sister is happy and is marrying soon. But none of them could go to the USA. They could not get the visa for the journey. So Forough married alone in the USA, her cousin and some other families were there. Now the war was started and to go out of Iran was impossible. So Forough wrote always to the brother and mother, come to the USA, even if it is not legal. Many people went to the USA by illegal way. Forough wrote in her letters always, and encourage the mother and brother to come to the USA. She wrote send your money at least, so I can buy houses for you. When you come here, you will have houses for living.
The brother sent all his remaining money and was waiting for the time that he can get his passport and can go. After 15 years that he could not see his sister, he became passport to go to the USA. Forough did not say everything about the husband. As Djalal sees the old uneducated man who cannot speak even Persian properly asked his sister. You said that he is an engineer and is well educated. He cannot even speak Persian or English properly. Then Forough told him the whole story, my dear brother I was alone and did not want to stay in the house of my cousin as a guest any more and I did not want to go back to Iran. He came with a bunch of flowers, which was so big that could not come through the door. He took me in the most beautiful, expensive restaurants and bought for me expensive gifts.
I though;he is a good man and I can have a comfortable life with him.
Later I knew that he is much older than me and has no education and no work. He plays with the money and in that time he took a lot of loan and may be he won also in the play. So he could spend money for me. Later I knew that what type of man he is. But even in the marriage ceremony as I did know he is so old, I wanted to cancel the marriage, but I thought that is not good , He paid a lot of money and you and the mother will be upset about this. So I said to myself OK and I will continue. What can I do? I have now a child and must stay with him. Djalal asked what you did with the whole money that I sent. Forough said, most of them he took and played, but I put some of them as a down payment in the 3 houses which I bought in my name and his name.
Djalal asked why you put his name. Forough said because of tax problem, I put his name on the houses, too. Now Forough was saying to Djalal that it is better that you go back to Iran and try to work there. Before sending money, she says always come here and now the husband does not want to have the brother around the sister and forced Forough to send the brother back to Iran. They put Djalal name as a second mortgage in the houses, when ever they want to sell the houses, they should pay Djalal off.
Without any interest and without any time limitation, they kept the money and as you know even in the USA, the money loses it value yearly and a little inflation exist also here. They did put no date for giving his money back.
Now Forough wanted the cut between Djalal and her family and she did not want to see the brother any more, because the husband did not want it. Djalal went back to Iran , this time he was collapsed and mentally was damaged. The only full sister that he had and loved so much and gave everything to her, was gone and did not show any love for him. The old ugly and bad husband was preferred. In Iran the situation was not good for him, too. He could not get any job any more as his mother was Bahai and he could not be accepted as a Moslem. The government told him, if he wants to be accepted as a Moslem, he should write article in the newspapers against other religion.
But how Djalal can write article against the religion of his mother in the newspapers,
So he was persecuted and could not work. The religion problem made a good business for the husband of Forough. Agha Mahmud misused the situation.
Djalal could not come to the USA and could not see the situation here, so they wrote always come here is a paradise and you can have a nice future here. The Iranian government did not give him a permission to leave the country, so he waited there for a time, but he sent his money ahead to the beloved sister and the sister was controlled by the husband and did what ever he planed. He thought first Djalal cannot come here. If he can come, he cannot stay and even if he can stay he cannot bring his family here, so the chance to get all his capital is good. But now was different, Djalal came, but very late. But he was here and so he was worried badly.
The second plan was that he says to Djalal you should go back to Iran, that is your country, you speak the language and know the culture and people and must not start the life from zero point. Now he had the whole money of Djalal and need not him any more. So they sent Djalal back to Iran. Djalal tried three years there in Iran, but without capital and he was older and it was difficult to be hired so easily and his whole money was with the Agha Mohammad now. Agha Mohammad was so happy as Djalal has gone back to Iran and he thought he can never come back. In the letters the sister wrote always. Do not come back in the USA. It is a hard country and is not easy to live here. It is a mirage and the life is not nice here. 180 degree opposite what she was writing before. She wrote also to the wife of Djalal do not let him come here.
You need him there for the children. The children need father also. Agha Mohammad did his business and his business was done. He misused the condition and collects the money from Djalal as much as he could and now he does not want him any more. Djalal did not know what to do and was very worried about the sister and her life. He could not sleep any more and was very concerned about the whole situation. The sister was sick and was not happy. But she does not want him back, too. Djalal could not stay with them any more, because the husband does not want him any more. So the other sister of Djalal said, go to the USA and stay there, even far from them and just take care about her from the distance. Djalal came for the second time to the USA and called the sister that he is here. The husband said " do not come to our house, if you come here I will call the police."
Djalal was three days on the street and did not know what to do. But what can he do, he could not go back as he had no job and no future there. His three children were always told that he had a nice future for them in the USA and even in the time that he was sending the money to the sister his wife was against that even his son was not happy that he was sending so much money to the sister. But as Djalal trusted his sister and was so sure that the sister is nice and is just one person with him, they were quite. Even his mother-in-law said the sister loves the brother very much and will not put down the brother. The father of Djalal wife has sent some money to his brother and the brother was not willing to pay the interest for many years, so his wife for this reason was negative about sending money to relative. It is really true that to give money as a loan without any security like bank does is wrong, in the time that they are receiving the money they are happy and nice, but when they should pay back, they will be bitter and unhappy. The best thing is not to give money to the people without having a good security.
After being for three days on the street of Orlando, Djalal found some friends and they rent a hotel room for him and he started to work in a shop as a cashier, and later he worked as a bus-driver and truck-driver and later he was a part time teacher and a full time university teacher. Now Djalal was happy and wrote to his wife and children “come here I have a good job and can support you a little. " He made all the paperwork and hired a lawyer to do the paperwork. After a while he did the work without attorney and fax them the paper and waited for them to come. In this time four years separation between Djalal and his family, took a big gab between father and children and wife. The wife always wrote that the 15 years old son make the life hell for all of them. But Djalal was engaged with the sister problem and could not go back in Iran. Because they did the same thing that my friend Morteza did. They delayed and played with him. The revolution in Iran caused this.
Any way the family arrived. Forough was so upset as she sees the whole family of his brother are here and the husband thought now they should pay them off. So Forough in front of the children of his brother said bad words to her brother and was impolite to him, so she broke the respect of the Djalal the father. Now the son was rude and impolite to him, too. He said that is your fault to trust the sister so much. As Djalal was in the airport to bring the family home, the wife said that she does not love him any more and the heart of his son is black. Djalal waited one year, sorrowfully he was not rehired as a full time university teacher any more. They gave him just a part time job as a university teacher. He worked as a bus-driver again. Now he did the paperwork of his wife and son and both of them had good job, they bought cars and soon after one year, they said they want to go out of his house.
Now Djalal has a big house with a lot of difficulties. His wife wanted divorce, because the sister wanted to damage his family. Before his sister said to him, that he should divorce and marry a woman here who can take care about him. Djalal wanted his family. Now she tried to separate the family from him and she did. The story of Djalal is not finished, as the humanity should learn from the Love. The Love should not die. Djalal is happy, because he said he did what ever he could, but if the family and sister are not happy, it is not his fault any more. The laws in Iran permit my best friend to play with the time and damaged my capital. I helped him in a very hard situation, if he does not appreciate my help that is not my problem, it is his problem. Even Djalal did his promise to his father. He sent his sister to other countries to study and helped his sister as far as he could, if the sister does not appreciate, that is not Djalal problem. It is her problem. For Djalal the Love is not died, but for my friend and his sister the Love did die. We must help each other and make the life easier with each other and use our power for the humanity and not for hate and disunity.
Amir said Djalal, I think the system in the world is trying to make the people indifferent and selfish and more and less like a dull or like an artificial person, who thinks only about sex, fun and should not love and respect other people and be indifferent with each others. You see you helped your friend, the Moslem friend in Iran. As long as you could help and give him money, he was nice and friendly to you. In the time that you need your money back, what did he do? He tries to kill you and made your life hell.
Than you will say at least to yourself, why my best friend changed to my enemy? If I were indifferent and did not help him, he could even stay my best friend. So I lost my friend and my capital together. What will be your decision next time to be indifferent? That is exactly what the society want. Indifferent people and the Love should die.
In the time that he came to you and cry and said that I have six hungry children and a damaged house, you did say , sorry I will pray for you and I do not have money to give to you. Or if you have given just a little money to him, which you could forget and in your mind you should said to yourself. Why I should be involved with a poor person,
now you did not have this problem. He took your money and wrote letters to revolution court and damaged your life. You lost your job and your income in Iran and came here as a poor man and start the life from zero point. If the law in Iran did support you and the court did get your money back in time and with the damage of inflation. He would never did this. But the law in Iran is very generous. With 20% inflation, they do not accept and concede the interest or they do not count the inflation.
In the old time that the interest was not allowed by Islam the money was gold coin and there were no inflation. Now it is a paper money with 20% inflation. But the courts do not count the inflation or the interest. So your friend has misused this weakness of the law paid the people the matter should have been delayed and your papers were sent from one place to other just to take time and you get your money back after 10 years. What is the result. He made money with the time. His properties have gone up and your money came down. So he was the real winner. He used the Iranian court system as a device for making money. He was considered as a smart man, who can make money with inflation problem in Iran. He died in the jail, but he was happy and thought he is smart, because he used your love and make money with it. The negative point of the system gave him the possibilities to make money.
Nobody has listened to you. He had the upper hand. He gave food and gift to the people and they supported him not you. So you will hate the people and the society and will never help anybody any more. That is the lesson the system wanted you learn. Be indifferent selfish and do not think about the other. You have no money nobody listens to you. You cannot pay; the people go away from you even if you lost your money for humanity and for God. Amir we understand each other because we have the same problem and the same difficulties, but your friend, my sister my family do they understand us. No, because they are different. But we should not give up; we should train the other people to Love and to be not indifferent. That is what the world system wants to train the people, be indifferent and just think about him, herself and their physical need.
The people are more and less like robots they think about Food, sex and later fun and drug. Amir in the time that your friend was in a deep need you help him with what ever you could. You saved him and you saved his children, but what he did to you. He damaged your life. You should come out of Iran with empty hand and work here as a teenager to survive. Why he did this to his best friend, because he was trained to be indifferent and he just has cheated you to be human. He knew that the inflation is 20 to 30% in the year in Iran and he knew that people in court system of Iran they do not care about you. So he did what he could and damaged your life.
I did the same thing, Djalal said, I tried to help my own sister and my own family. They did the same thing to me. I gave everything to my sister and tried to do my best for her. Her husband knew just like your friend that I do not have any money any more. He sent me out of the house and said go and die on the street of Orlando. If you come to my house I will call the police. I wrote a lot of letter and explain my situation. Nobody interested to help me. The lawyers wanted money to help me. I did not have the money, so they do not care. But my brother-in-law has the money, my money. He was willing to spend this money against me. So he hired expensive, good lawyers to support his cheating activities. You wrote letters to the many Bahai national and international spiritual assemblies. What did they do? They ignored you. You lost everything for them, they were indifferent with you.
I know that the Bahai are teaching Love and unity and the unity of mankind, but when it comes to the practice, they do not take attention. Why? The system of the world wills indifferent people. Why the people do not support us? Djalal said. As long as you have money and have power and you can give , the people want you , but when you lose your properties and power even if it is for God and humanities , the people leave you.
Even your best friends and family will misuse you , because everybody is under the pressure and all people are trying to survive and push the problem to other people and they are looking to have a victims for their problems.
. My sister was so loving with me, she wrote always lovely letters for me and asked me to come to the USA , even if illegal and should send my properties to her, and she will make a nice future for me. As I had difficulties with the Iranian government as my mother was Bahai and I was teacher in Christian school. I came like you here, without nothing, I start to work here and after 5 years that I had a good job and good income, I called my family to join me.
My wife always wrote that my son who was 15 years old make the life hell for her and her parent. He was very upset about situation and made her mother a lot of blames, the poor mother could not give answer to him and he make the life hell for her. She wrote a lot of letters to me and asked for help; I gave the whole capital of mine to my loving sister whose husband now did not want my any more. My wife called and said that she cannot control the son any more and his condition is dangerous. I said should I come back to Iran? She said no, you should stay there and tray. Our children cannot go to universities here. So I stayed and worked and tried to bring them here. She wrote in each letter and in each telephone conversation that my son makes the life hell for them. I wrote many letters to the Bahai organizations and asked them to solve my problems with my brother-in-law in a fair way and with the love and unity. Nothing happened.
I prepared my family paperwork and after a lot of try they get a permission to go to Dubai and get the visa and come here. Djalal said, I said to my wife sell everything and rent the house and come here. She did not sell everything and did not rent the house and come here. From the beginning she said that she does not love here and me and was not happy. The son wanted a rich powerful father that can pay him a lot of money to buy everything that he liked. One year the wife and son blamed everything on me and were unfriendly and not nice to me. They blamed why he has not enough money and why he cannot pay their costs as he did in Iran. Here is a different system. Everybody should work here. A man or husband cannot pay the whole costs of his family. The business people have another system here. They want that everybody work. In Iran they do not create so much work and the worker in not professional job are not paid well like in the USA. I asked again the spiritual assembly to help me and explain the situation for my wife and son. But they did not do that.
That here is a different system, here we are not familiar with the system and the people misuse us again. In USA if you are friendly, they take advantages of you
. Djalal has no other choice and he cannot make the same salary as in Iran. He had no other way. They were tired of Djalal difficulties and were indifferent.
The people see in Djalal in physical worker that should work 20 hours per days with the minimum salary and give this money to the wife and child to buy the luxuries that they wanted. Before the family came Djalal was a full time university teacher, but now he was only a part time teacher and the family were upset about this, too. But what can Djalal do? If Djalal was indifferent with the sister and did not let her to come to the USA for study, she would not make so many problems for him. If Djalal did not bring your family here they could not make so many problems for him. If I did not help my Moslem friend in Iran, he could not make so many problems for me, too. What is the result? We should be indifferent with each other life and do not care about each other. That is exactly what the business people want. They separate the people by color, nationalities, races, religions and train them to be against each other. They force them to believe what they are saying is right and the other people are wrong. They teach them to hate the others.
Do not respect each other and do not trust each other and be indifferent even with your own family. If you do not listen to them, they take your position, work and even degrees and send you to other country to start the life from zero point again. The punishment that they prepare is very hard. They want that we give up. And if think deeper, I see what they are doing. They train the people be indifferent. Nobody should trust so they can control the people much easier. The Bahai family of Djalal also did the same thing to him as his Moslem friends or Moslem government of Iran. He was almost persecuted as a Moslem and all his wealth in the hand of his Bahai family has been taken. His Bahai family was very nice and friendly to him, because they had a plan to rob him also. After they robbed him and they know he has nothing, they started to say bad words about him. The Bahais are in Iran under the pressure and they are in danger, but they still rob a person who lost his wealth for the Bahai faith and they did the same to him as the Moslems did. As he had not money any more, his family disconnected the relationship with him and left him alone after they robbed him. The system makes every body or almost everybody cruel or indifferent. So we should be also indifferent or cruel if we want to be safe. If I did not trust my Moslem friend and let him cry and told him, I am sorry, he could not destroy my life. And if Djalal did not trust his Bahai family, he would not be in a miserable condition, too. My best friend told me, why you gave me money and why you helped me that was your choice. And the sister of Djalal told him the same you gave me money and that was your fault. In the time that there is no law in the world to protect us, we should be very careful. Some people use the religions, nationalities and love and trust sometime just to rob other people. In the time that you are helping, you are the best person in the world, in the time that you need your loan; you are Satan and the worst person in the world. The system of the world is trying to kill all trust and all love and all friendship. They want robots and they do not want sensitive people any more. I wonder, from one side the Bahai let themselves to be killed for the unity of mankind and from the other side, they robbed my friend and the Bahai administration stayed indifferent like Iranian court? Mona is killed and her blood was misused by other bad Bahai to make money and business with it. Sometime you get confused how the human beings are. You help them and they destroy your life. Morteza and Mohammad were crying in the time they needed me and in the time I needed them, they told me that was your fault, why you trusted us?