- Posted April 10, 2014 by
This iReport is part of an assignment:
In praise of “other mothers”
Sister Mother Mari
kzoochic007 describes her relationship with her own mother and family as "complex." "I was not the nicest person by the time I got to college and met Marirose," she said. "I've never had someone challenge me or call me out if I was being rude or mean, and she did, still does, that."
- Verybecoming, CNN iReport producer
I have a large family, separated by divorce when I was 2 years old, followed by marriages divorce again, and another marriage. I consider myself (at times) lucky to have three women in my life who fit the role of "mother" but an unlikely person is my "Other Mother" and that is my best friend of ten years, Marirose. Although she is only 1 year and 2 months older than I am (A fact I tease her about every year) she is wise and has helped me grow into a much better person. She has taught me things like kindness, and good hygiene, and thank you notes. She has taught me self worth, and only dating people who are good people. She has helped guide me with my faith, she has taught me how to keep a secret, she has taught me, time and time again, when I needed help, that she is there for me. She has taught me patience, and responsibility, and that having morals is essential to a happy life. She has taught me how to vacuum up hair in the bathroom, she has taught me how to be quieter. The biggest lesson she has taught me, is to just be a good person, be the bigger person, even if it is hard. One of her goals is just "be better" and I have copied that to try every day, in a small way, or a big way, to be better. She has taught me how to be an actual grown up woman, a good friend, and also how to be (someday) a good mother. I will always look to her for strength and guidance, for the rest of my life. Even thought she is married now, and living in New York, our bond is stronger than any other relationship I've ever had. She's my sister and my person, and my "Other Mother".