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    Posted May 5, 2014 by
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    Going public with mental illness

    Surviving my parents suicides.

    My name is Steven D'Arbenzio, I am 25 year old art director living in Brooklyn NY with my wife and my dog. I have a good job, a growing art career, and have begun to build a life for myself and my family. However as "normal" as all of this sounds. My current life is a product of something very "abnormal",losing both of my parents to suicide. My father Paul, a 43 year old HVAC mechanic in 2005, when i was 17, and my mother Finella, a house wife ,when I was 18. In the years since, I have gone through many different stages, and emotions, many of them difficult to cope with and move passed, but the good news is, there is life after losing a loved one to suicide. It is possible to smile again, it just takes a lot of devotion, positive thinking, support, and most of all Love. Losing a person to suicide leaves you with many questions, and feelings, that all seemly hit you at once, at the same velocity. It is like being hit by waves in the ocean, and every time you try and stand up, another wave hits you, keeping you down. These feelings can and do last for years after losing your loved one. They still hit me sometimes, however I realize that life does not have to be all consumed by the bad choices my parents made. I am still alive, and want life to be beautiful. Some of the things I do to to cope and heal is attend suicide survivor's groups, and this year I will be doing by second overnight out of the darkness walk, with the foundation for suicide prevention. I have never written an I report before, and I am not even sure if this qualifies as a report. There is much more to this story, and my success in surviving these tragedies, however this has just been a little bit, and I hope it can be of some help to some people dealing with similar situations. I am more than willing to send pictures and more info if a more cohesive complete report was to be written. Thank you

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