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    CNN PRODUCER NOTE     When smurley was 22 years old, she found her birth mother. She learned that her biological mother was unable to keep her because of racism. "It made me feel incredibly sad to know that people still feel this way. Babies are sweet and innocent. I can't imagine even thinking about the race of a newborn child and hating her because of that," she said. She was adopted by a mixed race family when she was younger and grew up with 13 siblings, many of them were also adopted into the family. She says growing up in a mixed race home feels awesome. "In my eyes, I grew up in an ordinary family. We are all brothers and sister," she said. "I had 8 brothers and 5 sisters. I was also able to learn about different races, my parents made sure we were all proud of our heritages."
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    My biological mother was unable to keep me because of racism. Her mother, my biological grandmother, would not have a interracial grandbaby in her house. So I grew up in a house with eight brothers and five sisters. My parents are white. Three boys are my parents biologoical children. The rest of us adopted. Two of my siblings are from Vietnam.They were adopted during operation babylift during the war. One from South Korea. One from the Philipines. I grew up in color blind house. I didn't understand that this wasn't "normal." I remember people asking me, " How does it feel to grow up in a house like that? " I didn't know any different. I didn't understand the question.


    My parents didn't want to change history or face down racism. They just wanted to raise children that needed a home---most of the time I forget that we are even different races. It is obvious in what ways we are different, but on the inside we are so much more alike than just a glance could tell someone.


    I have found my birth mother, and am currently looking for my birth father's family member possibly in Des Moines, Iowa. His name is Isaiah Jones, he was with my birth mother Cindy Henning. He was tall, dark, and walked with a cane. I have had some recent health scares, plus I am desperate to find out about that part of me. I have tried looking for him on facebook and am half tempted to do what the "Burger King" baby did and post something to share around the world to see if I can not locate his family that way.


    My birth mother was white and my birth dad was black. They have both passed away. I have six biological siblings. I have only been able to meet one. They are all biracial too.


    I have started my own biracial family as well. My husband is white. I grew up not to see color. He is in the Air Force and I am a Registered Nurse working on my Family Nurse Pracitioner Degree.


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