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    Posted June 1, 2014 by
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    Nature vs Nurture


    CNN PRODUCER NOTE     Douglas Silber and his partner Vinnie both come from blended families and have several step siblings and parents. When they first started dating, that was one of the things they connected on. Silber says to him, family doesn't mean you have to be related. 'Families are individuals, related or not, who care about and for each other and know they can depend on each other for support,' he said.
    - Jareen, CNN iReport producer

    My husband and I have been together for 14 years now. Yes, we are a gay couple but that is not what this story is about, this story is about the diverse families we grew up in.
    His parents divorced when he was 2 years old. His father, Catholic, remarried soon after to a Jewish woman and they had a daughter. His mother never remarried but has been with the same person for over 30 years and they also had a daughter. His mother's person was married previously and had a son. All in all, my husband has 2 half sister's who are not related and a kind-of step brother. Still with me?
    Now for my side... My father died when I was 6 years old and my mother, Jewish, remarried a Catholic when I was 9 years old. I have 1 blood brother and my step-father had 3 children from a previous marriage, 2 boys and a girl. All in all, I have 1 blood brother, 2 step brothers, and 1 step sister.
    For totals, my husband and I have had 7 brothers and sisters and 7 parents between us, all of our mothers were in the healthcare industry and all of our fathers were in the construction industry. We both grew up in households where we celebrated both Hanukkah and Christmas.
    Being gay is one part of who we are, a part we got from nature. Coming from such diverse families has helped us develop to be the open, accepting, happy people that we have grown to be, that we got from nurture.
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