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    Posted June 5, 2014 by
    Middletown, Ohio
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    Your modern family

    The Gays Have Kids

    We have never felt like a non-traditional family. We have all the parts of a family. In our home, we have two daughters, three cats, homework, chores, laundry, and our oldest daughter’s boyfriend. There are tears, laughter, forgetfulness, respect, apologies, and stress. We are not immune to trials and tribulations. The economy affected our savings and our spending. We have lost jobs, lost a home, but we have never lost our strength, hope, and each other.
    From society’s point of view we are a same-sex couple with children. The kids in our family are actually my partner’s from a previous heterosexual marriage that did not end so well. From the divorce, he obtained full custody of his two daughters. As a stepparent, I had the struggles and worries of anyone wanting to be a great second parent. I remember my own stepdad with my mom growing up having the same issue. I guess stepparents are a straight and gay thing.
    After over six years of our being together, my partner and I have found ourselves proud parents of two beautiful daughters. They manage to do what every child does to every parent forever on this planet in all of time have and will ever do and that is: make you the proudest being in the universe one minute to pulling your hair out and reaching for a bottle of aspirin the next.
    See we perceive ourselves as a normal American family having normal family issues and normal family triumphs. The gay marriage movement is, of course, near to our hearts, but it’s not who we are. We look at it from a practical point of view and as any other family would want is a recognized institution called marriage. We are not activists in the sense of making phone calls, meeting with politicians, attending rallies and parades. We have done a few of those, but have found that to be ineffective to the movement; rather, we have seen more success changing others’ perception of what a same-sex relationship with children looks like: what we believe is a traditional American family.
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