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    Posted June 11, 2014 by
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    East Meets West

    We met while I was working in China. An American Jew and a Chinese village girl who had never been out of China before. Who would have thought we could make it work and that we would be living in Florida with two kids? An interracial marriage can bring on certain challenges, but when you throw in the vast difference in cultures you have an even bigger challenge. We are often surprised to find out just how close the Jewish culture is to the Chinese culture. Our views on the importance of education, our focus on being careful with money, and our take on child-rearing are all so similar. My guess is that both the Jewish and Chinese cultures have gone through some very hard times. That tends to make people more safety-seeking. My grandmother used to say “hard times make hard people”. We luckily never faced hard times but we feel that our cultures have taught us to prepare for the worst so that we can survive and live with a sense of security.

    People do judge us. Nobody outwardly says anything but our family and people I used to call friends treat us like we’re strange. All of our friends since getting married are also from other cultures. Spanish, Asian, or other foreign people seem to accept us with no problem. There is a stigma against people who are foreigners or don’t speak English perfectly. Americans look down on her. We both feel it. I see how people treat my wife and realize that I now am a foreigner in America too even though I was born and grew up in America. Our children, luckily, are native speakers and fit in well. Kids have a way of adapting.
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