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    Daughter Shares Journey Moving Parents to The Plaza at The Stayton at Museum Way

    According to the Alzheimer’s Association, over 5 million Americans are living with Alzheimer’s disease. Caring for a loved one can take a toll on the person providing the care. In fact, more than one-third of Alzheimer’s and dementia caregivers report symptoms of depression. Sometimes the most loving thing a caregiver can do is to decide to move that person to a community where the loved one can get the care and support that they need. The decision can be daunting and is full of emotion, but the most important thing is for the loved one to be safe and well cared for.

    “I moved here from the Austin area about five and a half years ago to help out after my dad had brain surgery,” said Amy Adams, whose parents are residents of The Stayton at Museum Way. “After the surgery he started showing signs of dementia that turned out to be Alzheimer’s, and it was apparent that my parents couldn’t live on their seven acre property anymore. Dad needed someone with him all the time.”

    “The socialization has really been the most important aspect for me,” said Amy. I’ve been able to witness the amazing transformation that has happened because of the social interaction they have at The Stayton. My friends ask, ‘What happened to your mother? She used to be so sad and now she’s on two committees.’ She’s doing all the things she said she was not going to do when she moved here. She plays bingo two to three times a week and loves it and is doing chair yoga twice a week.”

    Amy has truly enjoyed watching her parents become fast friends with the other residents. She said her parents enjoy visiting with their new friends, eating together, sharing things and even enjoy the visitations of others’ family members.

    The Stayton is a continuum care retirement community (CCRC), which means it has independent living, assisted living, memory care and skilled nursing all on the same campus. For Amy’s parents, this was ideal, as her father needed memory support and her mother needed less care with assisted living. Having it all on the same campus meant both parents could stay together and each receives the correct amount of care.

    Amy is also amazed by the employees of The Stayton and enjoys watching how personable they are with her parents while taking care of the daily duties and responsibilities that Amy herself used to do.

    Although Amy couldn’t be happier that her parents made the move to The Stayton, making the decision to move a loved one is tough.

    There are some telltale signs that it’s time to consider making a move. These include:
    • Home safety issues – risk of falls, not able to manage medications, trouble going up and down stairs, forgetting to turn off stove, etc. Decreased mobility plays a major role in home safety.
    • Poor eating habits – skipping meals, eating spoiled food, gaining or losing too much weight, having multiples or more than appropriate amount of certain foods.
    • Trouble driving – accidents, tickets, driving significantly under or over the speed limit, swerving, multiple scratches and dents in vehicle.
    • Financial troubles – late bills, bills piling up, overdraft accounts, making repeating donations to the same charity.
    • Neglecting personal care – poor hygiene, disheveled appearance, wearing the same clothes again and again.
    • Changes in personality such as isolation, agitation or aggression.
    • Decrease in activities and interests.
    • Neglecting home – messy home, clutter, cobwebs, spills that have not been cleaned up, neglecting a pet.

    When struggling with the decision, it’s always a good idea to widen the circle. Talk to trusted friends and relatives who can provide an objective view of the situation. Get feedback from others who interact with your loved one. Are they seeing changes in the categories above that you might be overlooking?

    “I couldn’t be happier with my decision,” said Amy. “I have such peace of mind knowing that my parents are receiving the best possible care. This place really is incredible.”


    Located in Fort Worth’s Cultural District, The Stayton at Museum Way is an 11-story, three building community featuring 188 independent living residences with a variety of spacious one-, two- and three-bedroom floor plans. In addition to resort-style independent living, The Stayton provides onsite assisted living, memory support, and private skilled nursing for life care residents and others in the community.

    The Stayton at Museum Way, a Masterpiece Living® community, is a 501(c)3 nonprofit senior living community sponsored by Senior Quality Lifestyles Corporation (SQLC), a Texas-based nonprofit organization that sponsors sister communities The Buckingham in Houston, Edgemere in Dallas, Querencia at Barton Creek in Austin, Mirador in Corpus Christi and The Barrington of Carmel in Indianapolis. For information call (817) 439-6936 or visit www.thestayton.com.

    Image courtesy of Amy Allen
    Image 1: Amy’s mother and father
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