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    Posted August 8, 2014 by
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    The Divorce Epidemic | Why 50% of Marriages Fail

    Sandra Mayberry San Diego Family Law Attorney says “With a 50% divorce rate in California, everyone needs to be aware of the information they should consider because they, a friend or a family member will need it.”

    Divorce is becoming an epidemic in America where 45%-50% of first marriages end in divorce. Popular culture continues to punch up the shift in independence, freedom, exploration, and experimentation but is it destroying the family lives and values that used to be cherished?

    Trying again doesn’t seem to improve the odds as 60%-67% of second marriages end in divorce and 70%-73% of third marriages end in divorce. Not only is it discouraging for married couples but it also dissuades potential marriages from even trying. Here are a few reasons that more marriages are failing:

    1. Greed. Marriage is difficult and society is becoming less willing to put up the fight for it. Selfish nature rules over the common good and as greed takes over a greater piece of the grand moral compass individuals take precedence over the maintenance of a union.

    2. Feminism. Women continue to reach through the glass ceiling and men are wary to give up their standing. If it’s not possible to achieve a greater sense of independence in the set social constructs some women are willing to give them up all together, marriage included.

    3. Insecurity. The world is in turmoil and the recent financial downturn has many Americans questioning what they can count on. Faith in religion has dropped and so has faith in each other.

    4. Judgment. Popular culture idealizes sex romps, ultimate freedom to move or relocate, and frivolous relationships and many couples feel judged as too traditional or closed-minded to lock into the ‘old’ idea of marriage.

    It is extremely important to see a lawyer even at the stage of only contemplating divorce. You do not have to actually file, but you want to know what your options are. Good lawyers are not interested in promoting divorce. They are interested in making your entry into the process as smooth as possible.

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