- Posted August 18, 2014 by
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The written word: Your personal essays
I grew up in a conservative Catholic family in Southeast Asia where it is the norm for children to be expected to finish their studies and have a stable job before having romantic relationships. Soon after graduation, I was given the opportunity to work out of the country which was too hard to resist. Accepting the job offer was a no brainer for me since with my earnings I’ll be able to help family. Having been born in a third world country where I’ve witnessed poverty first hand, my extended family have helped each other out to survive and raise the children well. I felt strongly that I should pay it forward considering all the support that I got from other people to overcome financial struggles.
Arriving in Canada was quite an experience. I was excited to explore the country that’s going to be my new home but sad at the same time since I’m away from my close-knit family. The people that I came with which were also sponsored by the company I worked for, became my close friends. Together we went through the ups and downs of starting a new life in a foreign country but with time we were able to adapt to the new environment, culture and climate!
The dating idea came in the picture when a friend suggested for me to try online dating since I have just moved to a new city with a new job and does not know anyone in the area. Even though I was not convinced, curiosity got the best of me and signed up for an account. I made my profile as generic as possible since my initial purpose was to just browse through the other profiles to see who is out there. I’ve chatted with quite a number of men but no one really piqued my interest, for me to go out with anyone. I must admit that I am being too guarded because of my fear of getting emotionally hurt.
I’ve had the account for over a month when Daniel* messaged me. I then read his profile and perceived him to be mysterious and intellectual which I find attractive in a man. It also didn’t hurt that the photo that he sent me of himself was that of a good-looking fellow. Through chatting, we discovered similar interests. After a week, he messaged if we can meet in person. Without me thinking things through or weighing the pros and cons, I agreed to see him that night after work. I arrived first at the meet up place then got anxious since was I afraid it’s going to be a disaster. I didn’t know what to expect or what to talk about on a first date. It was too late to check google or wikihow for tips! When he showed up, I felt relieved since my first impression of him was that he’s a nice and genuine guy. My inner dialogue beckoned for me to just be myself. Our conversation flowed freely. We talked about everything under the sun. He is also a good listener which I appreciated. There was no awkward moment. I had a great time. He seemed too good to be true. He then asked if we can meet again but I declined...
My first date was a learning experience for me. There are a lot of things that I have to improve about myself. I still need to grow up.