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    Posted January 4, 2009 by
    Canton, Ohio
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    Every parent's worst fear

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    A Silent Killer, A Mother's Shame

    The loss of a child is world shattering. We, as parents, never invision ourselves having to bury our child. Most of us believe that we will die long before our most sacred of gifts. My son, Dayton Lee West-Mullen died on October 27,2002 due to overlay asphyxia. I was sleeping with him when I accidentally rolled on top of him, unintentionally causing his death. He was 4 1/2 months old. Unlike elderly people who die with achievements and accomplishments, children die with hopes and dreams. So many memories never to be had. Every year I feel a different kind of loss, this past June 14 he would of been six years old. I wonder what cartoons he would of liked, if he would be friends with the little boy down the street, and if he would like first grade among many other things. When a child dies, a family photo can turn into a flashing billboard stating "SOMEONE IS MISSING", an empty swing at a park can mock you, and everything can take on new meaning. It as been over six years since Dayton's death, yet I can still feel the heartache as if it were yesterday. The pain does not lessen, does not ease its' grasp over time, it only becomes more manageable. You find a way to function with your pain. Everyone we knew slept with their babies, we were even advised by our pediatrician to do so. "Sleep with your baby.Bond with him." Rather than suffer in silence, I tell the story of my son's death publicly in the hopes to prevent a nightmare for another family. Overlay asphyxia deaths are at a national high, and no one knows about it, because no one wants to stand up and say "I rolled on top of my baby and he suffocated." I don't want to stand up and make that statement, but I do because if I can save one parent from being as heavily laden as I, if I can stop one tragedy, and save just one baby then it greatly outways the judgement and ridicule that is brought my way. I have no choice in telling my story, I have to, for Dayton. Dayton's memorial website www.foreverlovingdaytonlee.virtual-memorials.com The song you hear on Dayton slideshow is entiitled "Glory Baby" by Watermark
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