- Posted June 1, 2009 by
Santa Rita, Guam
This iReport is part of an assignment:
Calling all super moms
My wife and I live on the Island of Guam where I work for the US Coast Guard. We decided to have a little brother or sister for our daughter last summer. Two weeks later my wife was pregnant and 8 weeks later we found out we were having triplets (natural) they don't have the medical care available on Guam to handle a high risk pregnancy such as ours so we had to go to Hawaii. On Feb 4th 2009 our babies were born fourteen weeks early. They remained in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) for 13 weeks and were sent home in early May. We were told by the Doctors at Tripler Army Medical Center that we shouldn't return to Guam since the didn't have the medical care to deal with the developmental problems associated with babies born this prematurely. Unfortunately we had a choice of going back to Guam where we had a job or quitting my job and going to the states where we could get medical care but had no job. As the babies were doing well, we decided to go back to Guam and continue to apply for jobs in the states. We also tried to get help with taking care of our babies from my wife's family. Unfortunately her family is in the Philippines and everyone we tried to get a visa for was turned down. Even with letters from me and from our babies Doctors attesting to the condition of the babies and the help we would need to care for all of them. So now my wife has to take care of all four of our children by herself when I am at work. As I work 12 hour night shifts, this is becoming almost impossible. Her father was able to come out for a short period but because we live on the Navy Base the Navy has made it very difficult to get permission for him to stay at our house. I even wrote the president (twice) to ask for his assistance to get a visa for one of my wife's relatives to come help us. Unfortunately the family values that politicians love to talk about don't extend down to the common man or woman. So now we don't know what we will do, we can't get the government to allow us to have help with our family and even if we could, we don't know if the Navy will allow them to stay with us. In the face of all of this my incredible wife just keeps giving our children so much love and care that they are doing so much better than the Doctors expected. She gets no more than four to five hours a sleep a day and never more than three hours at a time. But without help in a month or two we will be faced with being so worn out that we will have to move somewhere where we can get help but I won't have a job.