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    Posted June 23, 2009 by
    San Marcos, California
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    Nobody will really ever be good enough, will they?


    Yesterday was Father’s Day.  A very beautiful one at that and we spent it together at the Del Mar Fair.


    And, me, the girls and uncle Eddie spent it with the most thoughtful and caring husband and father anyone could ask for, Ken Simeon.


    Having such a great hubby and wonderful father to my girls got me thinking though.  One day [far from now, really, really far from now], my beautiful little girls are going to be dating, falling in love, falling out of love and hopefully, through it all, finding the man of their dreams.  And then I thought, who will he be?  Will he be Black?  Hispanic?  White?  Asian?  Mixed?  But then I thought…does it matter?  Does it matter if he’s blue, for cryin’ out loud?  My answer never changed.


    What I desire for my girls is simple.  I want for them, all that I have in their father and my husband.  A warm, sincere, supportive, caring and special man.  Someone who compliments their person and loves them fully.  Someone who will be a Daddy and not just a father.  Someone who will respect them as strong women, but love them as delicate flowers.  Someone who is also strong himself, but not so much so that he refuses to play Barbies with his daughters or teach his son that a man is still a man, even if he shows his feelings.  I want for them, exactly what I have and nothing less.


    I’m very thankful my parents were understanding during my dating years.  I was allowed to make choices based on attraction, compatibility and behavior.  I never thought about skin color and was never forced to.  My brothers were allowed the same and we’ve all definitely spread the ethnic spectrum in dating and even marrying.  My husband’s family was much the same, which makes us a very unique unity.


    It is our duty, as parents, to continue to spread the acceptance and the love that our families have graced us with.  To show our daughters that they have choices, not based on color, but on quality and compatibility.  To have self respect and to demand that same respect from their significant other, regardless of his or her color.


    All I ever desire for my children; whether in love, life or career, is choice.  I want them to be who they want, love whomever they wish and live a life that makes them happy in their heart and soul.  I simply want for them to have the same happiness that Ken and I have.  And that, well, that is good enough for me.

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