some men are never serious while some women never do anything good to others. If you give to those lazy men attention, they will traple the pearl which means labor, or effort, and turn around and tear your heart apart. All they want is fool around more and more and they use your sweet effort as an excuse to pretend as if they are dominant over you and they go out there and act like they are king. Also, if you are good to those women who try to show they are being good to you, they will turn not serious all of sudden they act like they were joking. They want to play with you the game of either they are going to stay with you or not. The best way is don't be serious too much and don't do good too much. I mean follow your heart and be honest and don't bother to think of settling down with someone unless you really really have feel for it. You might make mistake by showing too much in front of Men, or do to good to women, but it's ok. Give yourself one more chance. They are empty spirits and you can leave them just as you leave what you have done that has nothing have to do with your real feelings. God knows what you want, don't be afraid to ask what you need but nothing more or less.