- Posted June 8, 2010 by
This iReport is part of an assignment:
Growing up with gay parents
Growing up with two mothers
Having grown up with a lesbian mother, this was a welcome contribution to an otherwise stale discussion. Of course, for me this was not news. I already knew that my siblings and I are just as well adapted to our society as everyone else. We’ve all done better than average academically, we all have a large circle of friends, good relations to our parents (not only our own biological parents, but also each others), vote in elections and eat and sleep just like everyone else.
If you ask me, one of the best things when you’re a kid is your mother. Everyone has a mother and even though we might not all have been privileged enough to meet them, we innately feel a great deal of affection and love for them. I was extra fortunate as a kid. I had two mothers. And with my extra mother, I also got two extra siblings. Now we might not be siblings in the sense that we share the same DNA, but in spirit and love we are.
No one would tell a parent who adopted that their child was in danger of being bullied or developing racial prejudices. By what means can you say that a child with homosexual parents will grow up to be sexually confused or bullied? Maybe it is people who grew up with homosexual parents that know best and feel secure enough to admit if they’re gay or not. Maybe it is people who grew up in a strictly conservative environment where homosexuality isn’t discussed or where gays are oppressed that are in risk of developing insecurities. Do prejudices flourish in an open and tolerant society or in a closed and conservative one?
The guiding factors in all of our lives are the people we grow up with and how much respect, love and kindness we see in our environment. This is completely regardless of sexual orientation or any other factor. If a mother is a person who teaches you things, nurtures you, loves you, comforts you when you’re sad and laughs when you’re happy, how could it possibly be a bad thing to have two?
PS. The picture shows me taking my first steps with my non-biological mother DS.