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    Posted August 19, 2010 by
    Burton, Michigan
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    Conversation about disparaging words

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    My kids use the N word...


    CNN PRODUCER NOTE     anne48503 had a recent conversation with her 11-year-old son about the use of the N-word when he used it in a name on an Xbox game. She was raised not to use the word, but her son says that all his friends use it to mean buddy or homie. 'Categorizing one whole race with that word, I don’t see how it’s useful in being used today. But, I don’t know how to stop my children from using it today when they have so many different groups in radio and shows that have them using it in a way that’s not derogatory,' she said.
    - zdan, CNN iReport producer

    I'm split on this issue because today I know what my kids listen to on their radio. I also have children with diverse friends and ALL seem to use this word...and they use it right in front of the black boys or girls they're friends with. I will tell you my story of what happened with my son:


    He has an xbox and he can change his name on there to say anything as long as someone else don't have that name: He changes it all the time. At one point he wrote his name as:  Ilove(n)... His black friends were saying thanks (in their language) lol...


    When I first heard he wrote that I told him not to use this word, because of my 'prejudice' of thet word... I ended up asking him to change it even after he told me, no one was insulted.  I said, "At least, change it to niggah or something which I think he changed it... As I said he changes his name often, but the point of this story is, once the word had a derogatory meaning, but today its meaning is being used by all races in a positive way; it's meaning has nothing to do with it being derogatory toward a race any longer, or my children would be fighting a lot.....


    I still feel that it's wrong for me to use this word.  I can't get passed the ingrained meaning I was taught it meant. I won't put this on my children.  I will just ask and teach them to be respectful. They are still doing this :) even using the word the way they do, I believe.

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