Over the past six years intense controversy surrounding the "Don't Ask, Don't tell" policy has circumvented the reality of what platform politics should focus on in regards to military service. The problem is that the title of the policy is all wrong.

I am a heterosexual woman. I love men. I think about having sex with men and I like looking at them naked. I would say that means me and at least 5 billion other women.  However, when I am interviewing for a job or working within the framework of a place of employment I don't go into the job stating my name, address and penis preference.

The whole idea of being a gay person is an individual choice of sexual desires and personal turn-ons that should not be a subject during the time one is working at their jobs.

It's not the right subject matter for any conversation between a group of individuals who do not sleep with one another.

I don't understand gay people. It appears that if someone is gay they have to receive validation for their choices.

Who cares what your choice is. I don't care what you do in your closed bedroom door. I just care that I don't need to know that you are gay. I don't think it's anyone's business to know what sexual orientation a person has because that is uninteresting, particularly boring and totally personal.

"Don't Ask, Don't Tell" sounds like a policy which means if you are gay, who cares? But keep it to yourselves because other military personnel from all over the world and in other organizations may see it as a weakness.

There has always been a stereotype of gays and lesbians called" dikes and fags." They are depicted in movies and in television as cross dressers, transvestites and transgenders. Women are regarded as bull dikes. One is the male, one is the female.

Men are regarded as "tops or bottoms". One takes it in the rear-end and another likes it in the mouth.

Other more conservative cultures see gays and lesbians as the weakest link in a military organization. This could hinder security for the entire military.

When I saw the title "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" I figured it was a policy where sexual orientation was not a required interogatory in order to fulfill the job's position.

After listening to years of controversy and news discussions, I started to understand more clearly about what this policy meant for the people working in the U.S. military. According to statistics, 193 million dollars was spent on pulling gays and lesbians out of the military if they served openly.

Everyone should serve discreetly, not openly.  I didn't go into the service and wear a badge on my back that said, "Hey, I love penises and I enjoy sucking my husband." "I am woman!"

If a person is going to work in the military and they are gay, they should keep it to themselves because that choice doesn't make them more of a hero or a better person.

Just like Secretary of State Condelezza Rice never marked her calendar with the words "Pick up K-Y jelly today." "Try the new heat sensitizing version." Maybe she read about that in a magazine selling personal dildos that vibrate. Who knows? ( I happen to believe Ms. Rice is one of the smartest and classiest employees we hired into the Whitehouse administration, by the way.) I think you understand my point.

There are way too many people working in our government making the wrong decisions about the the right stuff. It's a good thing we have had some successful workers.

Personally, I have nothing against people, in general. But I can't stand a person who is a radical, and ousting gays and lesbians out of the military for expressing their bedroom desires is foolish. Yet expressing them while on duty is equally stupid.

People need to get back to basics. What is important in life and what is not. Healthcare for everyone is important. Marriage for everyone is important. Being able to marry the dashund wolfhound purchased at the corner animal shelter is totally ludicrous.

Asking for rights to marry a human being whether female or male and same gender or not - is a private matter. I don't want to go to a wedding with two gays or lesbians getting married - unless I know them.

So, if a governing organization decides to take a vote of the people to determine whether same-sex marriages should be allowed then so be it. If the vote wins - then the policy is enacted.

But the idea that preaching gay and lesbian rights and stuffing their choices down every heterosexual's throat is wrong.  People should accept gays and lesbians if they want to and If they don't want to then, they should not have to accept them at all.

I think people should be judged by their works in life. How they treat others and what they do to influence those individuals younger and even younger which promotes love, understanding and sincerity.

The bible is a good way to influence people. But I never read a single verse which said, "Don't Ask, Don't Tell." As far as I know we should be honest, forthcoming, humble, understanding and respetcful to everyone and every policy which also respects and influences in a positive manner.

I am a heterosexual female, proud of it and I don't care if you are gay, lesbian or enjoy watching porno movies. But please don't tell me about it and I promise not to ask.