I'm done commenting on the show. But my girlfriends and I were talking tonight about black on black love....how it seems to be a dying thing. I get so many comments about why am I single? I get "You're so beautiful...so sweet....you have so much love to give..." yet here I am, going on 35 and I can't tell you that I've had one healthy relationship with a black man, in all my adult life.

If a lot of black men are in jail, or seeking white women, or aren't ready to settle down, or aren't ready to grow up....then where does that leave us educated good black women? Every single day I see it here....a black man going bonkers over white women...will stumble and fall over themselves for them....and I won't even get a simple "Hello". Yes, I've even spoken first, only to be looked at as if I've got a lot of nerve (Those looks come from the men, AND the white women who skitter up to them to let me know - he is HER trophy...)

When we've given black men a chance...we get put down. We are inadvertantly, playing the roles of the "man" by keeping things together...paying the mortgage, taking care of the kids....only to be disrespected time and time again, by our natural counterparts as if WHO we are, doesn't matter.

As another blogger put it on here...he couldn't get a black female to look him in the eye and, so many times, I've been that female. Why should I look you in the eye? When so many times, I've been slapped down? When so many times, I was put in second or third place, only to look up and see a white woman, is in first place telling me not to be bitter because "black men, just prefer us white women over you so get over it". It's hard.

Yes, I know I will get the question of looking outside of my race but...I never thought in my life, that I would have to LOOK - let alone look outside my race. For now, I'm not even looking...I know what I will find and it's not worth it! I wish they would do a show, completely on BLACK LOVE in america, and how it seems to be fading. In my world...it does not even hardly exist anymore. So...where do us forgotten black women rate? We don't even seem to have a chance these days to love and be loved in return.

Thanks for your opinions!

Peace All

JaMel