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    Posted September 3, 2008 by
    Norfolk, Virginia
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    Married at a young age?

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    Pregnancy Should Not Be The Reason You Get Married


    I was 19 years old. I had been dating a guy for about 6 months. We thought we were "In Love". Then I found out I was pregnant. And it changed everything. I grew up as a pastors daughter. So I wanted to do what was right so we got married. It turned out there was a lot I did not know about him. He became abusive. I tried to stay and do the right thing for our son. But his father chose to keep going down the same path of being abusive,cheating,and using drugs and alcohol. All things he was able to hide from me until after we were married. After a year and a half of this we ended up separating.  And  then we were divorced. Which ended up hurting my son more than if we had never gotten married and just tried to raise him together.  Getting married so young and just because I was pregnant was one of the worst mistakes I made in my life. Being pregnant should never be the reason you get married. 9 out of 10 it turns out in disaster. I am 26 now and remarried with three more children. I married a wonderful man that is a Sailor in the Navy. We took time to get to know each other for over year before we even started dating.  We are very happy. Marriage needs to based on love and a genuine respect for each other. Not just based on the fact that you got pregnant.

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