- Posted February 22, 2012 by
Las Vegas, Nevada
This iReport is part of an assignment:
What does beauty mean to you?
Beauty and Pregnancy
There is so many people who say nothing is more beautiful than a pregnant woman. They clearly were not the said woman at that moment. I loved feeling my son move inside my growing bump but then I would see the mirror. And then I would pick up a magazine with a star's "bounce back from pregnancy body" story. Let just say not fair.
I had a slightly different experience with my pregnancy. I carried 3 times the amount of fluid I should have. You could have added twins to my already big son and I would have been fine. My skin however felt differently. I have stretch marks EVERYWHERE. My once cute little cheerleader body is gone. And even though I have lost 40 of the 50 pounds I gained in the first 4 post pregnancy months. I still feel society views it as not acceptable. We place an unattainable expectation on women to bounce back from pregnancy.
I feel confident in myself and as a mom but I feel there is such competition with Beauty and pregnancy. How much did you gain? How fast did you lose it? Did you get stretch marks? Did you have to buy new clothes? Its so silly, we are not all the same build or same height and weight to begin with. So how could we all compare ourselves. Yet we do. Women are each others harshest critics. And I think we all need to sit down and remember that we have all had bad days, and give each other some slack.
And maybe the magazines should stop using photoshop on post pregnancy stories.
Beauty needs to be taken back. Remember its not on the outside, its who you are on the inside. And what you carry on the inside. I may not have my old body, in fact I may never be the exact same. But we created this tiny new life and I gave it life for 9 months inside that expanding, stretch marked belly. That's what matters now. And that new life is indeed beautiful.