- Posted May 9, 2012 by
Brooklyn, New York
This iReport is part of an assignment:
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Travolta SNAFU's Hurt Perception of Your Gay Cause :W J O'Reilly
Two stories in the national press have bad implications for the gay cause in America. First, North Carolina voters approved a constitutional amendment on Tuesday defining marriage solely as a union between a man and a woman, making it the 30th state to adopt such a ban on same sex marriage.
And on the other coast, John Travolta has been sued by two masseurs who claim that he caused them psychological harm by hitting on them in massage sessions in the past.
Regardless of one's sexual orientation or moral beliefs, the fact that North Carolina voters have put the constitutional kabosh on gay marriage and is the 30th to do so shows gays exactly where they stand in more than half the American states. It's a statement, really of non-acceptance of their right to have committed relationships, raise families and provide for their spouses in such important areas as health insurance, protection of children and estate transfer. Travolta's legal entanglements---which his lawyers say he will fight to the bitter end----are the pulp fiction and non fiction that are unfortunately the steady diet of immoral associations Americans have with the gay lifestyle and which affects their comfort with extending gays the rights and privileges of standard heterosexual couples.
Whether Travolta is a closeted gay man who has the bad habit of hitting on straight men or not is really none of our business, until the media grabs hold of it and explodes it into a hundred news, features and sidebars on the subject. Look, I'm doing it too, but at the very least I can freely state my position on the Carolina story, which is by far the more important. By the way, Does anyone see a parallel between the alignment of certain states against gays and their alignment against abolition of slavery way back when? States that allow gay marriage are: Massachusetts, Connecticut, Vermont, Iowa, New Hampshire and DC, with legislation introduced in Rhode Island and likely to pass.
America, let's get clear about the realities of family life nowadays. It isn't Ward and June Cleaver anymore raising Beaver and Wally. Families are unions of adults and children who are trying their best to navigate the complexities of life in our ever more complex society.
At least gays know where they can go to get justice: to the same states that banned slavery. Just something to think about. I'm W J O'Reilly.