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    Posted May 10, 2012 by
    Fredericksburg, Virginia
    This iReport is part of an assignment:
    Same-sex marriage: Civil right vs. states' rights

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    Marriage: What is its purpose?

    I am pleased and proud to have a president stand up for marriage and for the rights of everyone.

    In our society, marriage is complicated contract between two people to become a team in life, based on love/caring for each other. It also stabilizes household units for economic benefits for society, including inheritance.

    Because of this stabilizing function, we as a society extend certain benefits and advantages to married couples. They get legal protections. They can each own a home in entirety, so it cannot be taken for the mistake or issues of a single spouse. A spouse has legal rights for helping their spouse should that spouse be sick or hurt, in the hospital, or have legal issues that require support. A spouse becomes next-of-kin, allowing for notifications and other rights to kick in.

    By denying two adult people the right to marry, you deny them the right to declare themselves a stable household unit, and thereby deny them the protections under law extended to other couples.

    Having that denial based on sexual orientation of the adults is not a secular issue. Homosexuality is not unique to humanity, and is not even considered an issue in many of the world's societies and religions through time. Denying homosexual people the same rights as everyone else is a cultural construct related to the Judeo-Christian world in our society.

    We are supposed to be a secular state, and such religious considerations are therefore out of place in our code of law, which guarantees equal protection under law to EVERYONE.

    Thank you, Mr. President, for getting folks thinking about the issue of rights. In a world where we are taught we should treat others as we would want to be treated, we should all consider the issue: how would we want to be treated if we were being denied our rights because of a cultural construct?
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