- Posted June 24, 2012 by
This iReport is part of an assignment:
From Opposition to Acceptance of Reality
As Jim Nabors' character Gomer Pyle used to say, "Surprise! Surprise! Surprise!"
The saying goes that reality bites. That seems to be the case with one of the leading voices who supported California's Proposition 8, which vacated the California Supreme Court's ruling that made same-gender marriage legal in the state for a short time.
The US 9th Circuit Court of Appeals upheld a lower court's finding that Proposition 8 was unconstitutional. However, re-implementing same-gender marriage in California is on hold pending an eventual ruling from the Supreme Court.
One of the two witnesses who testified in favor of California's same-sex marriage ban during a landmark trial on the measure's constitutionality has come out in favor of gay and lesbian unions.
In an opinion piece published Friday in The New York Times, Institute for American Values President David Blankenhorn says it's time "to accept gay marriage and emphasize the good that it can do."
Blankenhorn wrote that he still believes children have a moral right to know both biological parents, but he thinks it is just as important for same-sex couples to be treated equally under the law.
It is not that Blankenhorn has changed his position. What has happened is that Blankenhorn has stared into the crystal ball and seen the inevitability of reality. In time, same-gender couples will be afforded equality under the law in the US of A. That reality will happen no matter the opposition.
From the Cornfield, one can accept reality and continue to hold on to one's belief and opinion. Acceptance is not the same as caving in or in rolling over. Acceptance of reality is holding firm while realizing that the inevitable must be.
This gay male believes that each of us has the right to our opinion, our belief and that we should not force others to change that belief or opinion. But we must learn to accept and tolerate those with whom we do not agree, while still holding true to our principles.