- Posted July 18, 2012 by
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Work and motherhood
Being the Example
When I found out that I was pregnant, I told myself that I would work hard to make sure that she would have everything she needed, and a few things of what she wanted. Being a working, single parent has been challenging at times. I've had to find alternate care for her while I worked, and while pursuing my degrees, we were not able to spend as much time together, but I made sure that we did get plenty of Mommy/daughter time during my studies. However, she has been so amazing during my schooling. It was amazing to have her at both my Bachelor's and Masters' degrees commencement ceremonies.
I have to show her that as a woman, you are able to accomplish anything that you put your mind to. As a Black woman, you will face many challenges that may stand in your way, but as long as you have God, family and a good support system, you can accomplish anything that your heart desires. I will let her know that when she gets married, there is nothing wrong if she chooses to be a working mother; yes, it will be tough at times, but she will be a strong, intelligent and capable woman who will be more than ready to handle the task!
My advice to working Moms would be first to establish a good support system. Find other Moms to network with and exchange ideas for babysitters, daycare centers, etc. Ask people in your social groups, churches, etc. for help if you need it. One key to my success has been my wide support system. Second, make sure that you spend as much time with your children as possible. A child needs his/her Mom's attention more than anything money can buy. As long as your children know that they are loved and that you work hard to provide them, they'll grow up with a good sense of self and appreciate all that you've done. Lastly, remember to take time for yourself often. As a working Mom, we can sometimes forget that the job and the kids aren't the only things in the world. We can't be any good to either if we don't take care of ourselves first. Find activities and interests that don't involve work; treat yourself often to that mani/pedi, weekend vacation or cute pair of shoes. You deserve it!