- Posted September 7, 2012 by
This iReport is part of an assignment:
Surviving sexual assault: Your testimonies
Rape with out a voice!!
To begin, the first time I was sexually molested I was but 4 years old. My mother, my brother and myself had just arrived here from another country and had no one here except for my sperm donors sisters. One of their sons was much older than we were and molested my brother and myself. When the situation was confronted by my mother she was told that he was a man and would stick it any where he pleased. Nothing was done to that man because of that cliche that he is a man and it is fine what he does. My mother moved us out of that home immediately.
After that incident happened, my mother met the father of my sister. He begun rapping me months after he begun his relationship with my mother. No one ever knew I was being rapped by him. Why, you might ask. One because I was being threaten by him. Two because I was afraid that even if I said anything nothing would happen, like it didn't happen the first time. That went on until I was 10 years old and the truth came out. What happened? Nothing!! The justice system failed me again. When he was supposed to go to court to be sentenced he simply didn't show up and the case got lost in the system like so many unsolved rape cases.
For me after so many years of this having happened I have come to terms with what has happened to me as a child and realized that it was not my fault, but now this man, (R) Akin's comments hit home because I was a child when that happened to me and could not fight back, and the system did nothing to fight back for my rights. I could have gotten pregnant from the rape because at age nine I started my period and was ovulating. I had no control over what was happening to me at that age.
Now I ask, are we really living in a civilized society where not only do men have rights, but are we living in the 1800's where women have no rights?
You know what also inspired me to write this is also something I read a few minutes ago about a woman in Arizona who has been sexually assaulted in a bar by a police officer and basically nothing was done. The worst part is that a woman judge blames the victim for it happening to her. I am utterly in shock. When will this stop happening? When will the voices of the victims and survivors be heard and not those who victimize?
I have seen cases like this in the city that I live in that people take the law into their own hands because those who are the law do not protect them. However, those that do that get punished for it continue raping because they do not pay the consequences for their actions. So what, if anything are we supposed to do? Do we sit back and allow generation after generation, to not only be victimized by the person rapping them, but also by the people in government as well to step all over our rights as women? Some thing needs to be changed in this corrupted system that does not defend us, but instead makes us feel like if we did some to deserve what has happened to us!
In conclusion: My opinion on people like Atkin's and Judge Jacqueline Hatch is that they should not have a voice or be in a position to make decisions on what is legit rape, or if a person was in the wrong place a t the wrong time, especially if they themselves have never been in the position of being forced and made a victim by a degenerate that feels the right to take something that was not given to them.