Culture and tradition defines that two things cannot be restored Trust and respect. I just do not know how much true that can be because I have volunteered many radical actions and always used honesty to recover both very easily but what I have noticed among most human bodies is remarkably amazing.
Our expectations are always broken. Every next person seems to do it. It is in human blood. Dynamic brains and diversities of thoughts draw each person different from each other. What some people call normal, others would call it Trouble. But not only this, the way “SORRY or APOLOGY” is accepted carries enormous fallaciously directed pattern of acceptance. You can never be sure about your sorry whether if it passed over or accepted by the next person.
It is said “forgive your enemies but don’t forget their names”. Contrary statements are huge in numbers when it comes about speaking of restoring trust and kindness. The word Forgiveness has got deep meanings inside it. It encompasses every possibly negativity that is required to be deleted from brain. If person is just saying that he is forgiving but can’t forget, it means that person hasn’t forgiven you for what you have done. This clearly shows that depression over the past episodes (or in philosophical terms: A scar) is still present and person has failed to overshadow the past. In such condition, a little spark is quiet enough to fire up whole past episode in brain, restoring almost exactly same amount of pain it caused or with multiplied intensity.
Depression, unrest behavior, insomnia and headaches are common manifestation for people giving away forgiveness but not forgetting those past moments. If people analyze this situation and seek end result, people will find themselves doing and taking wrong roads to accept apologies. There is only one end to such endless thoughts “forgetting that memory”. Obviously it is typically enough hard to delete any memory from brain but one thing a person can do; that is to delete emotional attachment to that memory. How to do that? It is so simple. Ask yourself some questions, what if you had done that mistake? , what would be result if you don’t forgive completely and if you don’t restore relation? What are you going to reap after getting sulky? After these and some other questions (ask expert), you would probably able to find yourself intellectual enough to be able to delete emotional part of bad memory easily.
The term Alzheimer here is not used for medical disease, but rather to compare results with people suffering from Alzheimer. Whatever you do to those people, they are going to forget that. They would never earn emotional bad memories to keep themselves depressed.
The best part of forgiving people with all your heart is that you would be able to restore respect to the same level and able to restore better relation again. Everyone does mistakes; you should always be ready to give 2nd chances.
There are listless numbers of profits in giving 2nd chance. Person whose apology you have accepted by your whole heart, that person is most likely going to get you more than you can ever imagine. That person starts acting as if you have done great obligation and your respect in that person eyes shoot up to the sky. Not only are these but there are many more positive elements with this great deed of forgiveness. I would like to leave that for your observation, try it and find spectacular miracles associated with amazing act of kindness (Forgiveness).