Note: I mention below that unless someone has completely(perfectly) controlled their desire, they should probably not write on this subject. With that said, since I do not flawlessly control my own desire, I am probably not giving flawless information due to being a hypocrite. I think it is understandable that people probably do not want to feel like they are being preached to either, but I know there was a time where I was genuinely interested in reading about this subject. I suspect the quality of someone's writing should not necessarily be based on their spotless adherence to what they communicated if what they are speaking about is only their goal which they have not reached yet and so can identify with anyone reading it.

I can never experience your pain as you do. Please accept the best I have to offer even though it is not much.You are right that we fall short on showing you love.

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I can say though that unless someone, through much struggle and ascetic labor, has completely controlled their desire, it is probably not wise for them to attempt to focus on the subject of advising against active homosexuality in any speeches they give or writings. I think that is especially important if the person who wants to advise against active homosexuality does not actually experience same-sex attraction themselves.
It has been stated that, “For in all fairness a charioteer can be called unskilled, not when he fails to control a difficult and unmanageable horse, but only if he cannot control a much less spirited animal.”(Philokalia Volume 2) I feel some concern because if the strip clubs in Florida were “preparing” for the Republican Convention due to how much “business” was expected, then I would hope that the same Republican “clients” are giving people with same-sex attraction the same open admission to their churches that they are given despite being sexually “promiscuous” themselves.
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How many straight people perfectly control and contain their desire that are not living in a monastery? The approach to how someone speaks to an actively gay person needs to completely change from what it is presently. Whether it is “worse” or not, they are still people, they are still human beings and humans struggle with desire. What is the fair and workable way to welcome them? I am failing to see resources on the internet for people in their situation that are not troubling. As always, I am attempting to give a starting point.
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Can you imagine telling a straight man in modern times that you can never have any intimate relationship with a woman or date a woman? Telling him that he should never look at a woman with any interest? Telling this to a straight man with a libido in modern times? How common is it for straight men to feel the need for a straight sexual release? I pray that people who publicly condemn people with same-sex attraction would just think about this for a moment and try to learn compassion for them. Then they will understand what they are requiring of someone with same-sex attraction is extremely difficult and feel empathy towards them before speaking.
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When you arrogantly speak about subjects like gay marriage or homosexuality, remember that for some people it is not as “easy” as it is for you to not deal with homosexuality/same-sex attraction. It might be the “simplest” thing you ever did in your life to not have an intimate relationship with someone of your own sex, but that is not necessarily so for others. I really wish I could offer more of a solution than just starting points for discussion, but this is what I am able to say even though I do not personally have same-sex attraction. The most qualified person to talk about such a topic would actually be someone who deals with it, but there are certain topics of this subject that one may conclude apply to any human being.

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If you carefully read these paragraphs, you will see that I technically said nothing opposed to the teachings of Christ, but attempted, as much as I can as someone not having experience with same-sex attraction, to offer a starting point based empathy.