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Identity crisis of women : Time to redefine the word Being women
There feels like there is a growing movement around the world before and even after the recent case of the Delhi Rape case, a long overdue, or perhaps one that needed a solid jolting Rev up, against the poor, unequal and dastardly treatment of women everywhere. A strength, a united voice; and change. But there is still something hindering us behind in spite of our economic and social independence and that’s the acceptance of my unique human individuality.
I asked a question to me; Am I really independent and free to choose what my conscious allows? Why my wills are not taken seriously? I looked within , and strangely the answer was with me : because I myself don’t take my will seriously and wish someone else to take on behalf of me . Don’t want to courage up to stand against the already built road for women.
Still today girls have no image of themselves as individual human beings, if they think of their only road to status, to identify in society they have to grab the man for her existence. I say, that the only thing that stands in women's way today is this false image, this feminine mystique, and the self-denigration of women that it perpetuates. This mystique makes us try to beat ourselves down in order to be feminine, makes us deny or feel freakish about our own abilities as people. It keeps us from moving freely on the road that is open to us. It keeps us from recognizing and solving the small, but real problems that remain “the acceptance of Her Brain “equally to that of His Brain.
Whether you know it or not, you have—in your own lives, in your own persons—moved beyond this false image. Gradually we have ourselves have denied the feminine mystique; we deny the very images of women that come at you from all sides. There is no real woman that has ever existed after the formation of society, not as far as the public image is concerned. There are sex objects and there are drudges. As we have seen it for centuries .This very concept deteriorate my feelings , progress and above all my existence as pure feminine in this nature.
I have to wail passively on male for that wise man to make the decisions on behalf of me that will shape my world, and a word for that human world.
Why All male rights are chartered under human rights while women's rights still put under female rights which itself categories a woman in a second class , an inferior and much depended on male for her rights and for her existence and survival in this society .
In this world it’s a testament that “Man is defined as a human being and a woman as a female – whenever she behaves as a human being she is said to imitate the male”. If this perspective would change and both sexes could be seen as equal human beings, then their strengths put together could create big changes towards a better society.
Today my conscious contnuselsy conflicts with the my so called identity given by this society .Several questions rise up in my mind like , do I have the right to make real choice without being influence by any man and acceptance of my full human potentiality ? Who I am and what I am ?
I don't understand what does being feminine is because my conscious does not match up with the available definitions of being women.I do what my will says. For say being an Indian girl, when I wear jeans I do it because I find myself comfortable in it not because I am trying to be masculine ,I want to ease my body to human comfort level not to a women .I told this very feeling to my mentor , and he said" then , Certainly then you don't need bill", and I replied proudly "Yes I Don't Want Bill " because nature created me equally competent as man so why to ask for something which was already mine , rather we as women should claim for rights instead of asking .
Because my belief tells me that I was created from mans ribs not from his shoe lace .
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