- Posted February 5, 2013 by
san antonio, Texas
HELP FIND HER
This is what my search has found so fare all the addresses are dead when we in 1990 went to see Nancy It was said she said no but I have paper work showing that to be totally a lie when I was in foster care she would come see me regularly with gifts.when the time came for me to be put up for adoption she freaked I have all this in black and white. This is a time sensitive matter to find her. Like I said all the addresses and phone number lead me to nothing all the phone numbers are diisconnected. the last addresses in Chicago IL comes back as a vacant lot. Please find it in your heart to help find her or help me find her I just want to see that she is okay. I'm not out to hurt her. In 1990 when me and my best friend went to the group home to see her they are saying Nancy said no witch its a lie her case manger went in talked to her came out and said in her opinion she felt it was not a good time to meet her. She said in front of my best friend Kelly I could write letters to Nancy through Dora Hale II was so crushed by this so I let it go for a short time. I have been trying for 23yrs to find her again just to uncover lie after lie and thing not matching up. I just pray every day my mother is okay I have lived on the streets its no joke.
Addendum of Nancy b. 1942
??/??/1942 Nancy was born in Connecticut
12/??/1942 Removed from parents & placed in foster home.
??/??/1947 committed to the commissioner of welfare as a result of neglect along with her siblings
06/??/1949 Nancy underwent emotional, intelligence and psychiatric testing
9/??/1949 indicated that she was immature, impulsive and had a low IQ
10/???/1950 the school system indicated that despite great attempts improve her school conduct, there were showing no progress educationally or behaviorally. Arrangements were made to have home bound instruction.
01/??/1951 home bound instruction occurred until her placement at Children’s Village
05/??/1952 Children’s Village found that her adjustment was poor and requested Nancy’s
Removal from the program she was then admitted to Southbury training school
Nancy was constantly resided at ether Southbury Training School or Fairfield Hills Hospital
06/??/1956 Nancy’s first admittance to Fairfield Hills Hospital
03/??/1959 Nancy’s was discharged back to Southbury Training School
08/??/1961 Nancy was readmitted to Fairfield Hills Hospital
03/??/1969 Nancy went back to Southbury Training School
6/??/1969 Nancy went back to Fairfield Hills Hospital
0 5/21/1970 Nancy was in Danbury hospital.
1/11/1970 Nancy’s parental rights were terminated at the Bridgeport Juvenile Court
I ran additional checks on your birth mother's current location. We use a locator database that is used by government agencies, the courts/legal system and police departments. The checks are run off of her social security number and her name/dob.
The following information is shown:
April1992-April 1996 lived in Torrington, CT (there were three different Torrington addresses, all appear to be group homes)
Altamonte Springs FL- there is note of one address in March 1996
July 1997 She had a PO Box in Oklahoma
From 1997-2002 There was a PO Box in Casselberry FL
From April 08-October 08 There was an address in Chicago IL.
There is no current address for your birth mother in any of our systems. All information ends in 2008. If she was homeless and living off the grid, that could explain this. It is also possible that she is hospitalized or has passed away.
Of note is that I have found the information for your birth mother's brothers. I have noted that both Roy and Jacob have passed away. Roy was born in 1934 and died in 2011 in Connecticut. He lists two sisters as having survived him- Ann (who I think is Theresa Ann b. 1943) and Betty (who I believe is Bessie Louise b. 1935). He does not list your mother or George.
Jacob's obituary is not online. He was born in 1938 and died in 2008 in Massachusetts.
There is no current information for George, who was at one point living in the Waterbury area. George is also not listed in the obituary for Roy. It is possible that he passed away some time ago.
As I was going through all of the notes from Dora, I noted that she listed all of the information about your mother's siblings. Some of these siblings are not listed in your adoption record and I am not sure why, perhaps they are half siblings. Dora contacted Roy. In 1990, he reported that had not heard from your birth mother for many years. She contacted another brother, Alfred. In 1990, he told Dora that he had received a letter from Nancy that was disorganized and rambling and indicated that she was "disowning her family". He said that she was living in NJ at the time but couldn't remember the town. Dora reported that though Alfred and Roy lived a street away from one another, they did not stay in touch with each other. George, another brother to your mother, was attempted to be contacted and never responded to Dora.
In July of 1990, Dora found that your mother was an adult ward of the state. She was living in a group home in Torrington, CT but because of emotional problems, she was hospitalized in a psychiatric hospital (Dora's notes don't indicate which one). According to the notes, you and Dora met with the director of the group home, Jane. This meeting occurred in August 1990. It was said that your birth mother's emotional state was very fragile and that contact was not a good idea.
In October 1990, Dora spoke again with the group home director, Jane. At this time, it was said that your birth mother wanted no communication at all. Dora closed her search case as a refusal.
In terms of contacting Dora, she has retired from the agency and therefore I cannot contact her.
I hope this helps you understand more about what happened.