- Posted February 10, 2013 by
This iReport is part of an assignment:
Have you had an abortion?
The Lies About Abortion
I am here to tell you how abortion has had a devastating effect on my life. I found out I was pregnant when I was nineteen. I had been raised in a devout Catholic home, and I knew right from wrong, but I had made a terrible and sinful mistake. My boyfriend had led me to believe that he loved me and that we would be married. However, he quickly changed his mind and pressured me to have an abortion. The one thing that sticks in my mind still today is all the LIES I heard from that point on. I received no help or alternatives from the few friends I told, and at that time (1971) there were no agencies which provided alternatives to abortion that were well-publicized. When I realized that I was trapped, I completely shut down and became a machine, doing what everyone said I should do to “eliminate the problem.” What they don’t tell you is that what you eliminate is a life, and that you only add a seemingly-insurmountable number of other lifelong problems.
Since abortion was not legal in Texas, my boyfriend made all the arrangements for me to fly with him to a hospital in New Mexico, where it was legal. My parents would not have been supportive. (Even our family doctor recommended a clinic in New York. He was not helpful either.) In my trapped mind, I felt that if it was legal somewhere in this country, it must be alright. I remember not feeling anything at all during the entire process…only a depressing numbness. I knew that I was about to do something very, very wrong, and yet I didn’t feel there was any way out. For those who say that it is all about a woman’s choice, ask women why they have an abortion: the answer is almost always---“because I felt I had no choice!” During the examination the day before with the doctor, I was made to feel very stupid. The doctor was cold and impatient and had no sympathy for me whatsoever. He said it was only “a blob of tissue at this stage.” He did not tell me about other options, about the after-effects of abortion, or about risks to my health or life. Before I left, completely reduced to tears, he wrote out a prescription for birth control pills.
The next day at the hospital, I felt like I was part of a cattle call, walking down long corridors, filling out forms, sitting in waiting rooms trying not to look at the other girls. Everyone kept their heads and eyes down. Although I had been told that I wouldn’t feel much pain (only some pressure), it was extremely painful, and I will never in my life forget the loud horrifying sound of the suction machine taking the life out of my body. I cried desperately in sorrow and pain, and the nurse held my hand but said nothing. For some perverse reason, the doctor told me that it was a boy….as if I had just delivered a baby! I cannot explain the great sense of loss I felt after I left the hospital. I had to return to my parents’ house and pretend that I had just come back from a weekend at the coast. I learned quickly to hide my feelings and put on a good front, but I was always very miserable and lonely inside. The sense of intense loneliness remained with me for many years. When I heard that Roe vs. Wade had legalized abortion nationwide in 1973, I felt sick to my stomach and completely hopeless.
It has been many years, and through much counseling, a number of spiritual retreats and a loving husband, I have been able to face my sin and accept God’s mercy and forgiveness. I have completely turned my life over to Him. I know now that women and girls are lied to and abused when they have an abortion. And yet they tell us today that abortion is “health care.” Well, I am here to tell you that there is nothing healthy about an abortion---not for mothers, not for fathers, not for families…and most certainly not for the millions of babies it destroys!
I know that there are many of you out there who have been through what I’ve been through. I know that some of you are men who regret their part in an abortion. I know that you are suffering. And I am here with a message of hope and healing. God wants your life to be made whole again!
Throughout the years, the abortion has negatively affected my marriage, my self-worth, my emotional and physical health, my children and most of all….the life of my first-born son, whose name is Joseph. And for his sake, and the sake of others like myself who have been scarred by the abortion killing business, I will be silent no more!