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Young, stupid, but still smart enough to abort
I have had two abortions. The first was when I was 17 and became pregnant with a man whom I found to be a pathological liar, and as soon as I told him he was excited to get married and start a family. I was 17 and knew I wanted more from my life than that, so I had the cells removed and told him I'd miscarried...and that I didn't love him. The second was a pregnancy I obtained at the age of 20 from someone who still lived with his parents and had no job; he eventually became blind and dropped out of blind school for smoking pot. Both times we had used less-than-optimal birth control methods (timing, pull-out, etc.) because condoms "didn't feel good" and I didn't have the insurance for birth control pills.
I look back at the men I could have had a "family" with and am glad I made the decisions I made. I'm sorry there are so many people out there who feel I destroyed souls or somesuch nonsense, but I decided at a relatively early age that I never want to get divorced like my parents did when I was 2, and I would not attach myself permanently to a man that was not good for me.
Since then I have gotten two degrees (a BA in English and a Masters in Information Systems), risen in the ranks of the local print industry, and generally done well for myself. I am now engaged to a wonderful man whom I love with all my heart, and I am on the pill. I take it religiously because I know that even at 33, we are neither emotionally nor financially ready for offspring....but will be. Soon. And only on purpose.
I'm actually glad I did what was best for me. I do not regret my decisions for a moment. I am finally getting to a point in my life where I am ready to consider being a mother, and I prefer that choice over any other. I'd apologize for the deaths of my "babies," but can't be truly sorry; I much prefer working in the private sector for $50k a year than being a welfare mother with limited college education.
I look back at the men I could have had a "family" with and am glad I made the decisions I made. I'm sorry there are so many people out there who feel I destroyed souls or somesuch nonsense, but I decided at a relatively early age that I never want to get divorced like my parents did when I was 2, and I would not attach myself permanently to a man that was not good for me.
Since then I have gotten two degrees (a BA in English and a Masters in Information Systems), risen in the ranks of the local print industry, and generally done well for myself. I am now engaged to a wonderful man whom I love with all my heart, and I am on the pill. I take it religiously because I know that even at 33, we are neither emotionally nor financially ready for offspring....but will be. Soon. And only on purpose.
I'm actually glad I did what was best for me. I do not regret my decisions for a moment. I am finally getting to a point in my life where I am ready to consider being a mother, and I prefer that choice over any other. I'd apologize for the deaths of my "babies," but can't be truly sorry; I much prefer working in the private sector for $50k a year than being a welfare mother with limited college education.
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