- Posted February 15, 2013 by
Do We Understand What True Love Means?
Along with everything love (its understanding, meaning and associated emotions) have also changed. In the midst of celebrating Valentine’s Day, partying, dancing, making out; I think to myself “what is true love?”, “have we lost the true essence of what LOVE is?” A lot of questions arise in my mind, as I am a Muslim and know very little about this day, my first step was to find out as much about Saint Valentines as I could. So the first few hours of my Valentine’s Day was spent in front of the laptop going through pages of various online sites and off course on Facebook reading posts and statuses about the day of love.
After hours of reading I finally understood the murky history of the day, sent balloons to my best friend, shared a few “I love yous” with cousins/friends and went back home where I spent some quality with my mother. As the night grew, I heard the details of romantic dates and the gifts exchanged. The next day at work was not so different; I heard similar stories and even better (Kind of felt like the odd one for being the only one for staying at home and for being single). I felt bad about myself for being lonely so I kept going through the details of my Valentine’s Day until a thought struck “heck, I was with family and not alone”. A moment later it made me feel so good about the whole day, I told the most important women (my cousins and friends) in my life that I loved them, I sent my best friend balloons so that she wouldn’t feel lonely and it made her day, I laughed and shared the best time with my parents and sister, I hugged my mother and told her I love her; how else one would celebrate the day of love. Suddenly being single didn’t matter and I was overwhelmed with gratitude and was grateful that at least I was not lonely and my entire day was surrounded by the people I love.
As I write this report, I thank god for the great family system that we have in Pakistan where each day is spent with the people you love the most. Where you re never alone at the dinner table, you have parents to scold you, your siblings to tease you, niece and nephew who would sit in your lap and eat from your plate, whole bunch of lunatic friends and to top it off relatives spread over five generations to be proudly claimed as “your family”.
So do we understand true love? Yes, we do! Have we lost the essence of LOVE? No!!!.... I experience love everyday with my siblings (picture1), in drawings my nephew makes for his grandfather (my father), at every family function with more than 200 members of close relatives (picture 3) and in simple joys of life. The spirit of love is always around us we just need to realize it, feel being loved and be grateful about it.
I wish that everyone came a step closer to their loved ones yesterday and was grateful for the love they have in their lives, if not they need to feel love without being drunk, high or horny!
I also wish to celebrate the Valentine’s Day with even more zeal next year and with hopes that I will too have someone special to share the feelings with. Till then I hope to keep the spirit of love alive!