- Posted March 5, 2013 by
Life and Mirror
Philosophies that you and I read are able to make our inside beautiful but irony people remain same. Positive elements including co ordination, love, support, kindness, faith, and confidence are of best elements on earth. These elements teach us how to like others, forgive them when they do mistakes. In Islamic context, this is justified by statement “Muslims are brothers to each other”. Philosophy I happened to read emphasize that we all human beings are made up of this earth and we are part of each other, therefore we should never harm each other because we’re one. Such amazing philosophical thoughts are idealistic and good enough to make our thoughts positive. There is one another philosophical statement saying “what ever happens to us is because of our own selves”, it means even if next person is giving you stupid reaction it is all because of your action and you should improve upon your action before reaction. Such amazing things I let myself grow with. Optimistic mode of working and nicety dominates all my aspects but what I see is SURPRISE in my life.
Before explaining surprise, let me tell you one thing, whatever shade you use to see the world with, you‘ll find world in very same shade. Once you remove that shade, all that effect will be gone.
Let me share my experience. I had good friends. Actually I thought them to be my good friends. I used to think them innocent and most kind people on this planet earth. I loved them a lot. It wasn’t them nice; it was my inside which was nice. They did stupid things and I let myself keep believing that they’re great people. Every time I met them, my philosophical thoughts and certain beliefs became source of biasness which made me believe great about them. I was unable to see them in factual shade and kept myself in illusion. It goes without saying that I was really enjoying such delusional view while unknowingly ignoring wrong things they were on that I should’ve resisted otherwise in the first place. It kept going like this until one day I kneeled myself into this matter and gave it time. I realized that it wasn’t right at all and it really surprised me how I was blind to what was happening. Abusive conversations are intolerable at all levels. Yes, we need to stay flexible, but not for bad things. People we love the most and finding them foul really trouble our emotional centers of brain and certainly hurt. As I believed always to give 2nd chances, I gave them quiet many such 2nd chances but all times they proved me failure. All I was left with idea “I shouldn’t be with them anymore”. It is surely not easy step “You’ve friends for years n then you leave”. Actually the thing is, you should make social contacts of your level. Before following such positive philosophies, one has got to hold thorough observation over person’s behavior for certain time, and then allow himself to be completely connected. I really wish I could find greatness in those friends in real so that I can allow myself for reconnection otherwise it is quiet best for my own sake to keep myself disconnected from people of different kind and to get connected with my very own kind.
You see, it wasn’t expectation that hurt me but my own inside. My faiths n blind beliefs kept me fool all times. This is one thing. There’re many things in our life in what most of us keep ourselves blind n allow ourselves follow without knowing ground realities. We see what we believe. It is so simple to demonstrate by example; a kid who believes in superman says to his mom all times “superman will come n save us”. In real, there’s nothing like true superman but he believes. He is not idiot, but he just doesn’t have his own eyes opened for reality.